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8 Simple and Creative Ideas to Connect with Your Teen or Tween

December 28, 2021 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Finding ways to connect with your teen or tween isn’t always easy.

This age can be tough.

Their friends are beginning to take center stage, while mom and dad fade into the background.

It can be a difficult transition for everyone involved.

But take heart.

While we may no longer be the center of their universe, teenagers still need their family as a foundation.

In fact, studies show that our teens are equally as needy as toddlers, just in different ways.

This is a time in their life when the amount of time we spend with them matters.

It isn’t always so much about what we are doing, but the fact that we are just there and they know they can count on us.

Being available is important if you want to connect with your teen.

Our presence is one of the few constants when it feels like everything within them and around them is changing.

This is why teenagers who spend quality time with their families have better mental health, are more confident, and are less likely to drink or take drugs.

But how do you connect with your teen or tween when they seem determined to push you away?

Half the battle is making sure that family time is a priority and that it is scheduled on the family calendar.

When it’s part of the routine, it actually can be something older kids look forward to doing. Think regular meals together, movie nights, and family vacations.

Beyond that, it’s all about trial and error and taking advantage of all the small moments that present themselves in each week.

There is no one size fits all solution to connect with your teen or tween.

Many of our teens and tweens will roll their eyes big time at some of the ideas below.

That’s okay.

The goal is not to do ALL of them, but to find one or maybe two that are a good fit for you and your child.

Also, you never know until you try.

Most tweens and teens are automatically going to react to any idea from a parental unit with very little enthusiasm. It feels like whether we offer them broccoli or a Ferrari, they’d respond with a similar shrug of the shoulders and monotone answer:

“Sure, whatever, I don’t care….. ”

But often once you get them involved, they begin to snap out of their adolescent malaise and engage. This isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it in terms of building a strong and lasting relationship with our teenagers.

8 Simple and Creative Ways to Connect with your Teen or Tween

Conversation Starters:

There is a general sense among tweens and teens that parents don’t ask questions because we really care or want to listen to what our kids have to say. Instead, they think we are simply prying or looking for a reason to give them yet another lecture.

This is why just about any question we shoot at them is often met with suspicion and deflection.

If you want to connect with your teen or tween and get them talking, sometimes it’s easier to start on neutral territory.

There are several different conversation starter tools that can be fun for a family to use at mealtimes or even in the car. Did you know that the car is one of the best places to talk with tweens and teens because there isn’t direct eye contact? Just that one little factor can make them more likely to open up. (You may also like this post about how to have an actual conversation with your teen.)

Take turns answering the questions and be sure to really listen when your child is talking. Don’t feel like you have to jump in and offer your opinion and definitely don’t get all judgy. The more you listen, the more they’ll be willing to share and you might just find that once the prompted question is answered and the ice is broken, they are willing to tell you more about the things you really want to know.

Here are a few games to get you started:

Table Topics Family Edition:

We keep this right on our kitchen counter. It is a fun mix of age-appropriate questions range from silly to thought-provoking and encourage up-building conversation between parents and kids

TABLETOPICS Family: Questions to Start Great Conversations

So You Like to Talk. We Hear You

We really like this new(er) game. You’ll be amazed at how these card games for teens can work wonders at helping to improve teenagers’ confidence, self-esteem, social skills, and self-growth. It will help improve their listening and communication skills in a way that does not feel forced.

ChatterChance Conversation Starter for Teens | Exciting, Fun Conversation Games with Question Cards That Spark Connection & Understanding | Thought-Provoking Card Games for Teens with 80 Questions

Letz Talk Teen Edition

Instead of one-word answers, the Letz Talk Communication Cards ask thought-provoking, open-ended questions that start real conversations.

Letz Talk Conversation Cards for Teens - Communication Topics, Conversation Starters Build Confidence & Emotional Intelligence, Family Games for Kids and Adults, 60 Cards (Ages 13-18)

Teen Talk in a Jar

This fun game is great when you just want to get the conversation moving.

Journaling:

Sometimes it can be difficult for our kids to talk about certain issues. A less direct approach that often works better is encouraging them to open up and share their feelings with us. Creating a shared journal can provide exactly this type of non-threatening communication opportunity to better connect with your teen or tween.

As this practice has become more popular in recent years, there are a number of different ones you can use. There are ones for mother/daughter, mother/son and even more generic ones. All of them provide some great intros about how to use the journals and they provide prompts, so you’re not flying blind trying to figure out what you should write about.

You’re probably likely to get far better reception to the idea of a shared journal from your tweens than your teens, but if you start when they are younger it is something they might be willing to keep up as they move onto the teen years.

Here are a few of our favorites:

Gratitude Journal for Teen Girls & Moms

Just Between Us, a mother/daughter journal

Mom and Son Journal

Father and Son Journal

Radical Family Workbook & Journal

What would your kids do if they could makeover your family? With the Radical Family Workbook you can find out how teens advise for parents to stay connected to their kids-a totally new approach to the traditional family meeting.

Family Game Night

No, family game night is not dead. They may sigh and protest, but giving them the chance to take down mom and dad or even their annoying siblings is an offer they won’t be able to resist.

Make sure you’ve got the right games on hand as well. They’ve probably gotten a little too old for some of the traditional favorites. Try some that are a little more challenging or a new game that they’ve never heard of before.

We’ve got some great suggestions for you!

The Best Board Games for Teens (from Teens Who Love Them!)

Not a board game kind of family? Okay, well get active and take it outside. There are TONS of fun games to play that are actually way better suited for your big kids then your little ones. Give one of these a try……

Fun Games to Play Outside

Also, keep in mind, family game night doesn’t always have to mean board games.

Sometimes to connect with your teen or tween, it means being willing to meet them on their turf. So, maybe it’s time for mom and dad to learn how to play one of their favorite video games or how to connect with them on the hottest gaming app. Who knows? Killing each other on Fortnite may just be the connection you are looking to have with your big kids!

Create a Photo Book Together

As a generation raising our kids in the age of cell phones, we have cameras at our fingertips to capture every moment of our children’s lives. And we do.

But most of the photos stay in our phones or our computers or floating around in the cloud somewhere. Every so often we might print a few after Grandma and Grandpa pester us long enough and complain about all this modern technology and how they have NO pictures of their grandchildren.

While it may feel a little old school, having real pictures that you can hold and look at is something our children rarely get to experience. And it’s going to be hard for them to take all of those digital memories with them when they depart to college and move on to their own grown-up lives.

So, why not carve out some time and enjoy a little walk down memory lane together. Go through the roughly seven million pictures you’ve taken of them since birth and pick out the best ones for a keepsake photo book. Most of us have signed up for a shutterfly account at one point or another, whether it was to print those photos for the grandparents or because way back before they were out of diapers we thought we’d make a photo book every year… we were so precious back then with all our plans.

Shutterfly often offers some great deals on their photo books, so this can be a fairly inexpensive project. You can check out their current offers by clicking HERE.

If you are looking to turn some of your favorite memories into art, we also love these photo gifts from Minted.

Host Your Own Book Club

If you aren’t readers, this may not be for you. But if you and your child share a passion for books, this can be a great way to bond. Let your child pick a trendy new YA title for you both to read or fall back on a few classics that remain universally loved across generations.

Pick a day that gives you both enough time to finish and then schedule a date at their favorite coffee shop. Treat your tween or teen to their favorite frou-frou beverage and maybe even spring for something sweet to go along with it.

Whether you actually discuss the book doesn’t really matter. That’s the best thing about book clubs. They just provide a reason to bring people together, what happens after that is up to you.

(Okay, but seriously, if you have a super geeky kid like I do who actually wants to talk about the book, you can find discussion questions for most popular books online.)

Looking to connect with your teen or tween? Try starting your own book club.

Here’s a few book lists to get you started:

Books From The 80s You Loved And Your Tweens and Teens Will Too

15 Of The Best Adventure Book Series For Tweens

The Best Audio-Books For Tweens and Teens (That Parents Will Enjoy Too!)

8 Great Adult Books for Teens Ready to Move On from YA

30 Best Books for Teens for Young Adults to Read in 2021

Trace Your Family Tree

Want to connect with your teen or tween? A family tree project could be a great way to spend time together

Figuring out who they are is a big part of the tween and teen years. That’s why finding out more about their ancestors could actually be appealing to this age group. They are looking for ways to belong and looking for what connects them to the people and world around them.

Embarking on this journey of discovery together can be fun, fascinating, and a great way to bond. You’ll be exploring the story of your family back for generations and creating the narrative of who you are and where you came from together.

You can share surprising insights and maybe even dig up a few startling family secrets.

Start by encouraging them to talk with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and anyone else who might know more about the origins of your family. This can be a good way to help them build deeper relationships with extended family members as well.

One of these books can help them jump-start the process:

Genealogy Basics in 30 Minutes

The Family Tree Problem Solver: How to Find Elusive Ancestors

The Family Tree Toolkit

As the pieces begin to come together, use a journal or scrap book to record all the information you gather. Then do some research together on how to take your investigation to the next level. There are many resources out there to assist you or you can even try a service like ancestry.com.

Cook with Your Teenager

connect with your teen by cooking a meal together

The benefits of families eating regular meals together are indisputable. It improves self-esteem, helps encourage strong academic achievement, and contributes to healthier behavior.

But when the kids are the ones preparing some of those meals, it can also provide quality parent/teen time and help them develop useful life skills. You may also discover that they are willing to try more new foods this way.

Pick a night once a week to have your teenager cook a meal with you. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated or fancy, but let them pick out the recipe. It could be a favorite meal that you’ve always made for them, something they choose on Pinterest, or take a look at this post 20 Fast Dinners for Busy Families Everyone will Love.

We also LOVE this cookbook that was a huge hit with our teens: How to Cook What You Want to Eat

Have them put on some of their favorite tunes or even make a special playlist together just for the occasion. Then get cookin’. It may be hard at first to let them take the lead, but try to keep your direction to a minimum. It’s okay if it doesn’t come out perfect or if you end up ordering pizza. Have a good laugh about it and tell them it will be better next time. It’s not about the food, it’s about spending time together.

Volunteer

Many teens today are far more aware of social issues than generations before them. They want to get involved in their communities and help make a difference. Plus, an increasing number of high school programs make volunteer work a requirement and it definitely looks good on a college application.

Support their service-minded passions (and their future college aspirations) by volunteering together. It shows that you’re taking an interest in something they care about and take their passions seriously.

If you already know about a cause that is near and dear to your tween or teen’s heart, contact a related local organization to see about their volunteer opportunities. Do they love animals? Try the Humane Society. Are they concerned about the homeless? Check into local food banks or Habitat for Humanity.

If your teen hasn’t yet found a cause that really speaks to their heart, use a site like Volunteer Match to search for some ideas.

A few other easy ideas to connect with your teen or tween:

Stay informed of local events you can attend together that appeal to their interests; outdoor concerts & festivals, sports activities, theater productions
Suggest taking a walk or going for a bike ride together regularly
Let them choose a Netflix series to watch together
If they usually take the bus to school, drive them a few times a month and get coffee or donuts on the way
Redecorate their room with them
Let them teach you how to do something new on your cell phone or the computer
Get some adult coloring books and color for a few minutes with them when they are stressed

In order to connect with your teen or tween and build the kind of relationship you want to have with them, don’t try to force things. Look for the smaller opportunities to present themselves or seek out ways to meet them on their turf. Then simply be patient, be a good listener and let them open up to you in their own time.

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Forty of the Most Inspiring, Heartfelt Quotes About Raising Teens

January 11, 2021 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

This post shares 40 of our favorite quotes about raising teens.

Let’s be honest. Raising teenagers is hard. Really hard.

It truly is like riding a roller coaster.

There are the highest of highs, when you feel like your heart will burst from pride at the young person developing in front of you.

And there are the lowest of lows like when their heart is breaking and you can’t do anything about it, when they make a poor decision, or when someone pushes them down in this world.

There are the hormones and the attitudes and the sighs and the eye-rolls.

And there is driving, so much driving. Until they start driving on their own and you miss that time with them.

Did I mention it was hard?

So, we put together some of our favorite quotes about raising teens that you could use as inspiration when you need it most.

Are you looking for a laugh? Check out the Most Hilarious, Best Quotes About Parenting Teenagers.

The Best Quotes about Raising Teens

Don’t sacrifice your teen’s tomorrows to get through today. “One day when your teen is grown, they really will thank you for setting limits, giving them responsibility, having high expectations, and saying “no”. Have faith in that fact. Don’t sacrifice your teen’s tomorrows for a more peaceful today.”

“The only thing I know for certain about raising teenagers is I have no idea what I’m doing. Every day I’m just hoping I didn’t mess up too badly, trying to do a little better than the previous day. Stumbling, bumbling, struggling, forgiving, talking, ignoring, guiding, praying, wishing, wondering, stressing. Loving them the only way I know how: with all my heart and everything I have. And hoping that it’s enough.”

If you are looking for some parenting inspiration about raising teens, you may also like this post: Mamas, We Need to Start Giving Ourselves the Same Grace We Give Our Kids

“I constantly go between wanting you to be my baby forever, and being excited about all the amazing things you’ll do in this life.”

If you fix your teen’s problems today, where will that leave them tomorrow? “It’s hard not to sweep in and try to make everything better for your child–especially when you know they are hurting. Sometimes you just have to let your kids fail even though as a parent it’s the hardest thing to do. Let your tween/teen learn from their mistakes, learn how to take accountability for their actions, and learn to overcome obstacles on their own. Remember, if you fix their problems today, where will that leave them tomorrow?

Presence more than presents. “As our kids get older, it’s even more important that we give them our undivided attention and time whenever we can.”

quote about spending more time with your teens

Teens are still developing…“The most important part of the human brain–the place where actions are weighed, situations judged, and decisions made–is right behind the forehead, in the frontal lobes. This is the last part of the brain to develop, and that is why you need to be your teens’ frontal lobes until their brains are fully wired and hooked up and ready to go on their own.” -Dr. Frances Jensen

Whenever possible, a parent’s job is to teach your child not to need you. “Kids don’t stay with you if you do it right. It’s the one job where the better you are the more surely you won’t be needed in the long run.” Barbara Kingsolver

Our goal is to raise children who are hopeful. ““Raising children who are hopeful and who have the courage to be vulnerable means stepping back and letting them experience disappointment, deal with conflict, learn how to assert themselves, and have the opportunity to fail. If we’re always following our children into the arena, hushing the critics, and assuring their victory, they’ll never learn that they have the ability to dare greatly on their own.” -Brene Brown

Raising teens requires love, perseverance, tenacity, sweat, tears, prayers, lighting candles, and the list could go on.” -Ana Monnar

“Motherhood is a choice you make every day to put someone else’s happiness and well-being before your own. To teach hard lessons, do the right thing, even when you’re unsure what the right thing is. And forgive yourself over and over for doing everything wrong.”

Our job is to teach our teens that it’s okay to be sad. “Our go-to as parents is to make everything better. We want to flip on the lights. But our job is to teach our kids that it is okay to be sad and to sit in the dark with them.” -Brene Brown

Brene Brown quote about sitting with kids in sadness

Remember what it was like to be a teen. “one of the greatest gifts you can give your teenager is the gift of letting hin know you get it. You’ve been there.”

Quote about remembering what it is like to be a teen

We often can’t fix our teen’s problems. “When your teen has a hard day, don’t ask if they want to talk about it–because most of the time they won’t. Instead, ask if they want a snack, go for a cup of coffee, take a walk, or watch a movie. We often can’t fix our big kids’ problems, but we can always be available to listen and show we care.” -Whitney Fleming

quote about what to do when your teen has a hard day

Their choices aren’t always our choices. “There are a lot of different ways teen girls strive for independence. It’s in their fashion choices, music, friends, activities, and language. And sometimes their choices aren’t the same ones their parents would make for them. That means raising teen girls is walking a tightrope of setting limits and letting daughters forge their own path. This is hard, but the result can be a confident, authentic woman that loves whom she is becoming.”

Letting your kids grow up is kind of like releasing a kite. “Letting your kids grow up is kind of like releasing a kite. You hate to see it go, but it looks so beautiful and free as it climbs higher and higher in the bright blue sky.” -Susan Gale

quote about letting your kids grow up is like releasing a kite

We let go to hold on. “When you don’t support all your teen’s choices-like the blue hair or the class they decided to take or the activity they decided to quit–remember that letting them make as many as possible will be the glue that keeps your relationship in tact. When parenting teens, we let go to hold on, and watch as our babies start to take flight. It may not be the route you suggested, but take comfort in knowing you taught them to fly.” -Whitney Fleming

You will never have this day again. “You will never have this day with your teenagers again. Tomorrow they will be a little older than they were today. Just breathe, notice their faces, pay attention. it will be over before you know it.”

We don’t wanna…..Dear Mom: You get mad at me for not acting my age, and then start crying because I’m growing up too fast. Pick one!

Time after time. Always. “If you’re lost you can look and you will find me. Time after time. If you fall I will catch you I’ll always be waiting. Time after time.” -Cindi Lauper

Roots and wings. “There are two things we should give our children: one is roots and the other is wings.”

Ten Things Not to Stop Doing:

quote about things not to sop doing when you have teens

I hope they always know they cant tell me anything. “As my children get older, I don’t expect them to tell me everything, but I always want them to know that they can tell me anything!”

Give them permission to enjoy their childhoods just a little bit longer.

Prepare your child for the path. “We have to prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child.

“I would have given anything to keep her little. They outgrow us so much faster than we outgrow them.” -Jodi Picoult

Teens push boundaries like it’s their job. “Teens push boundaries because their lives are so confusing. They want to know what will hold fast. The only way to find out is to push.” -Kathleen Bauer

No one will ever love you like your parents. “Dear Teens: We may annoy you, lecture you, embarrass you, drive you crazy and even make you hate us some days. But no one will ever love you like we do.”

quote about no one will love you like your parents

So hard watching your teen grow up. Also so wonderful. “You won’t understand how hard it was to watch you grow up. But I also hope you know how wonderful it was, too.”

I will drop everything to spend time with my teens. “If my kids want to spend time with me, I’ll do just about anything to show up.”

If you want a more pleasant teen….“If you want to have a more pleasant, cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, empathetic, consistent, loving parent.” -Stephen Covey

Just because our teens choose a different path, doesn’t mean they are lost.

quote about it's okay to choose a different path

If I could give my teenager three things it would be the confidence to always know their self worth, the strength to chase their dreams, and the ability to know how truly deeply loved they are.”

quote about giving daughter three things

The days are long and the years are short.

quote The days are long but the years are short

What a teen needs when they mess up. “I may deserve your disappointment as well as a lecture, but what I need is your understanding, your guidance, and your unconditional love.” -Richelle Goodrich

The kids are okay. “For generation after generation, teens have been criticized for everything from how they dress and the music they like to play to boundaries they push and the causes they champion. Isn’t it time we finally let go of some of the tired teen stereotypes that we recycle over and over again?” -Kira Lewis

Let your kids hear the nice things you say about them too. “If you want your hildren to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.” -Haim Ginott

quote about letting teens overhear nice things you say about them

There’s no such thing as a bad kid. “There’s no such thing as a ‘bad kid’–just angry, hurt, tired, scared, confused, impulsive ones expressing their feelings and needs the only way they know how. We owe it to every single one of them to always remember that.” -Dr. Jessica Stephens

Someone who believes in them. “All kids need is a little help, a little hope, and someone who believes in them.” -Magic Johnson

Nothing they could do that would make you love them less. “Some of the most important things you can communicate to a child are that feelings are okay, mistakes are fixable, and there’s nothing they could do that would push them away or make you love them less. Behavior is not perfect, it is communication. Embrace the imperfect and show children they are worth holding close to your heart, no matter what.” -Kelly Bartlett

Letting go. “Letting go of your kids is not just them physically moving away from you. Sometimes it’s letting go of expectations or aspirations or even dreams you have for them. It’s letting go of the control of their choices. It’s letting go of your heart while trying to hold onto your values. And when I let go, I hope an even more beautiful life will come to fruition for my kids than what I could have ever imagined.” -Whitney Fleming

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How To Prepare For College As A Sophomore In High School

January 16, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

When your teen is a sophomore in high school, it can still feel like college is a million years away. Especially for them. Parents on the other hand, already know how fast the time will go. The world isn’t the way it used to be and a lot has changed since most of us applied to college. Things have gotten a little more complicated and a tiny bit more competitive, which is why it’s important to start planning for college early.

However, this doesn’t need to turn into a stress fest for you and your teen(s). In fact, that is part of what planning early will help you both avoid. There are a few key areas to be considering during sophomore year, that can make the whole process much easier along the way.

Here are five things that every sophomore can be doing to help them start preparing for college now.

Have A Family College Planning Discussion

The beginning of sophomore year, before your high school student really begins looking into colleges seriously is a time to talk about fit and finances. If you haven’t had this conversation already, it is essential that parents and teens discuss expectations such as what is affordable and attainable. Many students have big dreams of going to pricey out of state universities or private colleges, but that isn’t a reality for the family budget.

Does that mean this option is off the table? Does the student have an academic profile so far that might make them eligible for scholarships? How does your family feel about debt and taking on school loans to help pay for college? And let’s be honest, even if the student is happy to go to an in-state university, there still may be many of the same concerns.

And finances aren’t the only thing to discuss. You and your teen should at least begin discussing what kind of college is going to be right for them. In state and out of state isn’t just about cost, but also about comfort level. There are also questions about big schools vs small schools, the type of social environment, and how difficult admissions may be relative to the student’s academic achievements so far. If your teen’s grades weren’t as strong as expected their freshman year, as as sophomore there is still time to turn things around.

Begin Researching Colleges

There is a good chance that the family discussion will lead to this step. Your high school student may not really have any idea where they want to go or what kind of college will be a good fit. There is also a good chance that they have many misperceptions about college admissions. They may not have a clue what the requirements are for schools they think they are interested in (and honestly, you might not either).

Many school’s have seen admission criteria get more competitive in the last few years, so even the grades and test scores that got an older sibling into a school may no longer be good enough. Also, may teenagers don’t know which colleges are better for what types of degrees.

Now, during their sophomore year is an excellent time to start looking at what colleges are out there. There are many different resources available to high school students to help them start to narrow the list. There are books to help students research colleges , students can visit university websites for information and to take virtual tours, they can attend college fairs at their school and it isn’t too early to start talking with the high school guidance counselor.

By the end of their sophomore year is really when parents and students should aim to have a pretty solid list of schools the student might want to attend. There should be reach schools, target schools and safety schools.

Evaluate Your Academic and Extra-Curricular Schedule

As you begin to narrow down a potential list of colleges, you and your teen will become more familiar with their admissions criteria. This is the time to make sure that your teen’s classes and activities align with their interest.

Does your student need to add some AP classes? This route is not for everyone and it doesn’t mean that every student has to take a dozen or more. However, AP classes can potentially help save money because students can place out of certain introductory courses. But be sure to check individual college policies on this as it varies greatly from school to school. Colleges also view these courses as having “rigor”, which can be important if your teen is looking at a more competitive college.

Is your student taking the classes they need for an intended college major? Many students still are unsure what they will study in college, but other students are much more clear about their abilities and interests. If your student thinks they want to study engineering or medicine, they often have to finish a minimum level of math and science before graduation. You just want to make sure they are on track.

Lastly, most colleges are looking for well rounded students and will also want them to have volunteer hours. Even better, when they show commitment to both over time. So, make sure your teen is making an effort to be involved both at school and in their community.

Planning for the PSAT (And Other Standardized Tests)

Most high school students will take the official PSAT at the beginning of their Junior year. However, more and more schools are offering an opportunity for students to take a practice PSAT during their sophomore year. The PSAT is what qualifies students for National Merit Scholarships. So, if you have a student that tests well, doing some preparation for this test during their sophomore year is not a bad idea.

If your high school doesn’t offer any pre-testing, there are plenty of books and online courses available to help students maximize their scores. Ultimately, you and your teen have to determine if this a good investment of time and money and it isn’t right for everyone.

(As a side note: if you have a high school student who is planning to pursue an extremely competitive university, it isn’t a bad idea to also consider taking some practice ACT/SATs near the end fo their sophomore year. If they aren’t a strong test taker, they may need to spend some of their summer working on test prep and it is better to know sooner than later)

Go On A Few Summer College Tours

If that college list that your high school student made is pretty long, take advantage of the summer after sophomore year to start campus tours. Colleges might sound nice on paper, but in person may not be a good fit. Going to see them in person can really matter, but trying to cram in a ton of college visits during their junior year or beginning of senior year can be too much. Especially as those years really ramp up with other parts of the process like testing, and actually filling out applications.

It is so much more fun when visiting colleges doesn’t feel rushed and it can help your student make a better choice. So, turn them into a few family trips and take a couple long weekends over the summer to tour some schools. You can schedule official tours on each university’s website.

Helping your teen plan for and apply to college can be hard, but these popular posts other parents found helpful can make it a little easier.

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75+ Awesome Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Teens to Show Some Love

January 14, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

teen boy on valentine's day — Just because they’re growing up doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still celebrate! These Valentine’s Day git ideas for teens are great to show the love!

Inside: Here are 75+ awesome Valentine’s Day gift ideas for teens and tweens.

It seems like just yesterday when our kids were exchanging superhero cards and bags filled with plastic treats and candy for Valentine’s day. I am still a little bit traumatized from having to help decorate three shoeboxes for class parties.

But now my teenagers seem to shake Valentine’s Day off as no big deal, or just use it as an opportunity to hang out with their friends (if you want to make this holiday special for your teen or tween check out our 7 Valentine’s Day Ideas for Teens That Will Make Them Feel Loved.)

Their taste has changed a bit, too. Tubes of play-doh, some Hershey kisses, and a jump rope don’t seem to cut it anymore.

And who has the time to do something elaborate or wants to spend a ton of money on junk they won’t use?

So, we put together a great list with some perfect gift ideas for Valentine’s Day. Some of them are practical, some might make them roll their eyes at first, and some are just simple ways to show your teens you love them.

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75+ Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Teens and Tweens

For the Teen and Tweens Who Like to Be Pampered

Shower Steamers, Aromatherapy Steamers with Pure Essential Oils for Relaxation, Gifts for All Ages, Birthday, Christmas and Valentine’s Day Gift, Strong and Lasting Fragrance Shower Tablets, 6 PCS Burt’s Bees Lip Balm, Moisturizing Lip Care Valentine’s Gift for Men & Women, 100% Natural, Original Beeswax, Strawberry, Coconut & Pear, Vanilla Bean with Beeswax & Fruit Extracts (4 Pack)Village Naturals Therapy Mineral Bath Soak Variety Set 3 Pack – Restless Nights, Aches & Pain, Stress & Tension (20oz Jars)Muscle Balm MISSION Original Cooling Towel- Evaporative Cool Technology, Cools Instantly When Wet, UPF 50 Sun Protection, for Sports, Yoga, Golf, Gym, Neck, Workout, 10” x 33”TriggerPoint GRID Foam Roller for Exercise, Deep Tissue Massage and Muscle Recovery, Original (13-Inch), Black Valentines Home Spa Gift Basket, 8 Piece Bath & Body Set For Men/Women, Fresh Peony Scent – Contains Shower Gel, Bubble Bath, Lotion, Bath Salt, Body Scrub, Bath Soap, Back Scrubber & Cosmetic Bag DLuxSpa Sandalwood Skincare Shaving and Bath Gift Basket Set for Men with Hemp Oil Extract Natural Bath Bomb Gift Set – Hemp Bath Bombs with Organic Coconut Oil, Shea Butter, Refreshing Eucalyptus and Relaxing Lavender for Men and Women – Handmade in USA – 6 Pack Valentines Day Gifts for Him Boyfriend Husband,Do Not Disturb I’m Gaming Socks Gifts for Her Women Wife,Birthday Funny Gamer Gifts for Men,Girlfriend,Teen Boys,Girls,Grandson,Granddaughter,Nephew Womens Fuzzy Socks Slipper Soft Cabin Plush Warm Fluffy Winter Christmas Valentines Day Gift for Her Sleep Stocking Stuffers for Women Her Cozy Adult Socks（Mix Pink(6 Pairs)）Epielle Hydrating Foot Masks (Socks 6pk) for foot cracked and dry heel to toe and callus Spa Masks – Shea butter + Jojoba Oil + Vitamin E Moisturize feet & soften cuticles and rough heels | Christmas Stocking Stuffers | Christmas Gifts Alex and Ani Path of Symbols Adjustable Pull Chain Bracelet for Women, Heart Charm, 925 Sterling Silver, 5.5 to 9.5 in Lokai Silicone Bead Bracelet, Marble Pattern Style Bracelet for Men and Women, Black, Large, 7 Inch Sacred Shea Skincare Organic Shea Body Butter, Fragrance Free Beauty Butter, Beauty Butter 8 oz.Brooklyn Botany Brown Sugar Body Scrub – Moisturizing and Exfoliating Body, Face, Hand, Foot Scrub – Fights Acne Scars, Stretch Marks, Fine Lines & Wrinkles, Great Gifts For Women & Men – 10 oz PhysAssist Foot Scrub 8 oz. with Tea Tree, Peppermint Soothes and Exfoliates Promoting a Deep Cooling Sensation Leaving Feet Feeling Calm and Refreshed.Gold Heart Stud Earrings for Women – 14K Gold Plated Hypoallergenic Heart Earrings – Minimalist Gold Heart Earrings for Birthday Christmas Mother’s Day Jewelry Gift 15 Valentines Day Heart Shaped Stress Relief 3“ Smiley Face Balls for Kids Party Favors, School Classroom Exchange Prizes Gift

For Teens and Tweens Who Loves Sweets or Snacks

I mean, sweets for the sweet. And they don’t call it the candy holiday for nothing!

Bombombs Hot Chocolate Bombs, Includes Fudge Brownie Hot Cocoa Bombs Filled with Mini Marshmallows, Pack of 12 CraveBox Gourmet Brands Care Package (30ct) Snacks Healthy Cookies Bar Chips Organic Specialty Variety Gift Box Pack Assortment Basket Mix Sampler Treat College Students Finals Valentines Day Chocolate Snack Box Variety Pack (48 Count) Ultimate Sampler Mixed Box, Cookies Chips Candy Care Package for Valentine’s Day Basket 2022 – College Students Office Staff Green Jay Gourmet Meltaways – Premium Peanut Butter Filled Milk Chocolates – Melt-In-Your-Mouth Candies – Sweet Treats Gift Box For Birthday, Christmas, Holiday, Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving – 8oz Valentine Fortune Cookies (50 individually wrapped) Valentine’s Day Party Supplies, Treats for Kids by 4E’s Novelty Oreo Fudge Dark Fudge Covered Valentine’s Day Sandwich Cookies Valentine Cookies Gift Tin 1.11 lb 24 Cookies Total, Chocolate, 1 Count Heart Lollipops by Candy Creek, Bulk 18 lb. Carton, Strawberry Cream Valentine’s Candy HERSHEY’S and REESE’S Cupid’s Mix Chocolate Assortment Candy, Valentine’s Day, 23.67 oz Variety Bag Frito Lay Cheetos & Doritos Valentine’s Snack Mix (40 pack)SOUR PATCH KIDS Original & Watermelon Valentine Candy Variety Pack, 40 Snack Packs Starbucks Frappuccino Coffee Drink, Mocha, 13.7oz Bottles (12 Pack)Chocolate Covered Pretzels Gift Box- Vegan Gourmet Assorted Dark & White Chocolates Gift – Premium Candy for Giving Women &, Men, Present For Christmas Mothers Day, Anniversary, Holiday, Birthday Godiva Chocolatier Assorted Chocolate Box of Biscuits, 32 pc.Total Indulgence Hot Chocolate Mix, Includes 15 Gourmet Hot Chocolate Packets Bulk, Deep Dark Hot Cocoa Mix – 1.5 Ounce Packets

For Teens and Tweens Who Love All the Love and Heart Things

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Gift Ideas for Teens and Tweens Who Love to Bake and Cook

Silicone Heart Cake Pan, 8 Inch Love Heart Shaped Bund Cake Pan Mold 2 Pack Jumbo Silicone Cake Mold Nonstick Baking Pan for Valentine’s Day Cake Jelly Pudding Chocolate 4 Tier Stainless Steel Electric Chocolate Fondue Fountain Machine Choco Melts Dipping Warmer Machine 4-Pound Capacity for Chocolate Candy Butter Cheese (4-Tier)Manvscakes | Lip service sprinkle mix | Valentine sprinkles | Cookie sprinkles | Cake sprinkles | Pink and red sprinkles Pies Are Awesome: The Definitive Pie Art Book: Step-by-Step Designs for All Occasions 10PCS Valentine’s Day Cookie Cutters Set – Wedding Cookie Cutters Set with Biscuit Pastry Cutters – Stainless Steel Biscuit Shape Molds Love Heart Aprons for Women Men Apron Kitchen Chef Cooking Pockets Waterproof BBQ Grilling Adjustable Set of 3 Valentine’s Day Silicone Spatulas with Wooden Handles Valentine Pattern Heat Resistant Baking Spatulas Silicone Spatulas with Pink Satin Ribbon Bows for Baking, Cooking and Sauteing Pretty French Macarons Made Easy The Chocolate Cookbook: Luxury Chocolate Recipes for Valentine’s Day and Special Occasions The Baking Cookbook for Teens: 75 Delicious Recipes for Sweet and Savory Treats Mini Hearts Waffle Maker – Create 9 Heart Shaped Waffles or Pancakes with Electric, Nonstick Waffler Iron – Cute Valentines Day Breakfast Artestia Swiss Trational Cast Iron Cheese Fondue Set, Cast Iron Fondue Set For Cheese, Meat & Chocolate (Blue)McCormick Grill Mates Spices, Everyday Grilling Variety Pack (Montreal Steak, Montreal Chicken, Roasted Garlic & Herb, Hamburger), 4 Count Gifts for Men Dad Husband Him Valentines Day, Survival Kit Tool 14 in 1, Survival Gear and Equipment, Camping Accessories, Fishing Hunting Birthday Gifts for Boyfriend Teen Boy Women, Cool Gadgets Set of 3 Valentine’s Day Silicone Spatulas with Wooden Handles Valentine Pattern Heat Resistant Baking Spatulas Silicone Spatulas with Pink Satin Ribbon Bows for Baking, Cooking and Sauteing Valentine’s Day Coffee Stencil, Konsait 20Pack Reusable Valentine’s Day Cake Cookies Baking Painting Mold Tools for Decorating Latte Oatmeal Cake Cookies Cappuccino Mousse Hot Chocolate COJOJO 4 Pack Silicone Nylon Turner Spatula Spoon Ladle Spaghetti Server Slotted with Heart Shape Round Square Kitchen Tool Set

Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Teens to Let Them Know They Are Loved

Lorigun Set Home Decoration Artificial Plants Potted Cute Modeling Fake Potted Plants Heart-Shaped To My Son Always Remember You Are Braver Than You Believe Quotes Black Dog Tags Pendant Necklace Love Gift Pink Teen Girl Gifts Set – Daily Journal for Women, Teens and Kids Thermos Water Bottle for School, Personalized Gifts for Girls, Moms, Sisters, Best Friend, Wife, Girlfriend, Coworker – YOLO Attitude KWANWA Voice Recordable Picture Frame – 3.9 x 3.9 Inch Heart Shaped Desk Photo Frame – 20 Seconds Recording (Black, 3.9 * 3.9 Inch)Father & Daughter Journal: Fun, Prompted Journal for Dads and Daughters; For Tween and Teen Girls and Their Fathers (Fun Parent and Teen Bonding Journals)Rose Teddy Bear – women gifts for mom anniversary girlfriend birthday gifts for Her , Rose Bear Rose Flowers Bear gifts for teen girls Mothers Gifts Valentine Day Birthday gifts – Rose Bears Box (red)100 Ways to Love Your Son: The Simple, Powerful Path to a Close and Lasting Relationship Inspirational To My Son Wallet Card for Teen Boys Mens Stocking Stuffers Gifts for Christmas Birthday Kids Valentines Day Gift for Men Boys Step Son in Law from Mom Mother First Time Fathers Day Gift DaDa Bedding Luxury White Heart Pillow – Lovely Valentine Gift Throw Cushion with Sewn Insert – Cute Romantic Present Soft Faux Fur Sherpa Backside – 16” x 14”Gratitude Journal for Teen Girls and Moms: Shared Prompts for Connection and Joy Aura Carver Luxe HD Smart Digital Picture Frame 10.1 Inch (Oprah’s Favorite Things 2021) – Gravel THE COMFY Original | Oversized Microfiber & Sherpa Wearable Blanket, Seen On Shark Tank, One Size Fits All Burgundy Magic Custom Photo Color Changing Coffee Mug Cup, Personalized DIY Print Ceramic Hot Heat Sensitive Cup Birthday Christmas Gift Add Your Photo Text

Don’t want to buy anything because your teen’s room is a mess? Consider these experience gift ideas for teens.

Or, a simple card and some pancakes is a great way to show your older kids you love them, you see them, and they are a special part of your life.

However you choose to celebrate (or not at all), keep showing your big kids the love. They need it more than we think!

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7 Valentine’s Day Ideas for Teens That Will Make Them Feel Loved

January 13, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens 1 Comment

Inside: This holiday “Day of Love” used to be so much fun when your kids were young, but now it seems like they are uninterested. We put together our seven best Valentine’s Day ideas for teens and tweens that won’t make them roll their eyes!

valentines day ideas for teen — Valentine’s Day can be fun for teens and tweens too with these great ideas.

Sigh. Remember Valentine’s Days of yore?

When you sat down and helped little hands craft a shoebox to hold all those cute cards, participated in class parties, and spent hours trying to get your kid to sign his name 26 times by February 14th?

Yeah, maybe it wasn’t all fun and games, but I did love how excited my kids would get about Valentine’s Day when they were little.

Now that they are teenagers, it’s just not the same. They are way more interested in spending time with their friends or even (gasp!) their significant other. Additionally, it’s tough to find things that they don’t think are too immature for them

And while I’m happy to give them some Valentine’s Day gifts, I also want to use this time as an opportunity to connect with my older kids.

But I’m not ready to let any opportunity pass to have some fun with my big kids and make them feel loved, so so we came up with a few Valentine’s Day ideas for teens and tweens that even the grumpiest kid will enjoy (honestly, they may not show it, but they love it deep down!)

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Seven Awesome Valentine’s Day Ideas for Teens and Tweens

Breakfast (or Dinner) in Bed

Is there anything better than waking up to a beautiful tray with your favorite breakfast items on it without you needing to do anything? With teens having a lot of pressure on them in today’s world, having just one less thing to think about can start their day off better.

Since most teens, however, get up at the crack of dawn, they may not have the five minutes to spare to even woof breakfast down, so you may have to get creative.

You can have your teen’s favorite breakfast waiting for them to-go style, do it on the weekend of Valentine’s Day, or even tell them to get comfy in bed with their favorite Netflix binge and you’ll bring dinner up to their room for them to enjoy at their leisure. Also, never underestimate how simply bringing up your teen’s favorite snacks can make their day a little brighter.

Remember, the point is to spoil them a little bit and make them feel loved.

Valentine’s Day Ideas for the Teen You Want to Connect With: Coupons

I know, it sounds kind of cheesy, but many teenagers truly appreciate when they are provided with a “freebie,” whether it is a tangible or intangible gift. You can create a mix of coupons that includes some outings or dates you can do together, a few things that may seem “special” to them, and some that are silly.

The goal is to show your teen or tween that you see them, you understand what they love, and you want them to be happy.

For example, if you have a coffee-loving teen, you can give them a coupon for four free dates with you at the local coffee shop. Even a few minutes in a drive-through can give you some time to connect with your teenager. I know my teenage daughter always opens up whenever we go to Dunkin!

Or, if you are a parent that restricts tech usage, you can give your teenager a coupon for an extra hour of video games or screentime (parental terms and conditions apply!)

You can also give them some opportunities to get out of their chores. Even the most good-natured teen would appreciate not having to mow the lawn, pack their lunch, or take out the garbage every night, so a Chore Free Coupon would be a fun way to show some love.

Put Valentine’s Day Hearts on Teen’s Door

We LOVE this Valentine’s Day idea for teens we saw on Moms of Teens and Tween’s recently (she also has some awesome printable hearts you can use for this cute idea.) Starting on February 1 (or whenever you want in the month of February), put a heart on your teen’s door with a note telling them something you love about them.

Parents often think we’re telling our kids what we love and like about them, but sometimes in the muddle of everyday life, they may not be hearing us. Also, if you’re like me, sometimes I get so concerned with preparing my teenagers for life that I forget to tell them why I think they are awesome.

Not sure where to start? Here are a few ideas:

I love how hard your practice your sport. My favorite thing to do is watch you play!
I was so proud of you when I saw you _______________________.
I loved how hard you worked at _____________.
My favorite queality about you is :___________.
Your laugh is the best!

You get the picture. Be as heartfelt or as silly as your relationship, but don’t think for a minute that your teen won’t be checking to see what you leave for them each day.

And the point is not to overwhelm you or your teen in any way. If this is too much work, consider handwriting a “love” letter to your teen letting them know all the reasons why they are tops on your list.

Valentine’s Day Ideas for Teens When You Don’t Have a Lot of Time? Leave Them Valentine’s Day “Love” Notes

Valentine’s Day isn’t just for lovers, it’s a day to show your love.

Despite wanting to be treated like a grown up, teens and tweens truly needed to be reminded that they are loved as often as possible. Hide notes in some places where they may not expect, and don’t worry if they don’t find them only on Valentine’s Day. Nothing is nicer than when you’re having a bad day and a love note drops into your lap.

A few good hiding places are:

underneath their video game controllers
in the pocket of their hoodie
dresser drawers
dashboards of their car
in their favorite mug
in a textbook
on their pillow

Make (or Purchase) a Special Valentine’s Day Dessert

From what we know about teenagers, the way to their hearts definitely is through their stomachs–and they definitely appreciate dessert.

There are so many great sweet treats you can do at Valentine’s Day, but we love the idea of getting a little more sophisticated and decadent than a chocolate chip cookie (although you can never go wrong with a chocolate chip cookie!)

We love these ideas that include a strawberry tart or a chocolate and marshmallow sandwich, but if you have an aspiring baker, this could be something you can do together.

But most teens aren’t picky, so if you want to show the love, pick out their favorite treats from the local bakery or some cupcakes from the grocery store. Also, never underestimate the power of a gift card for their favorite sweet treat.

It’s all an act of love.

Have a Movie Marathon

Let’s be honest, sometimes Valentine’s Day can be a downer if you feel like you are the only one not in a romantic relationship. This can be particularly hard on a teen that is scrolling social media and seeing the highlights of their peers with a boyfriend or girlfriend.

One of the easier Valentine’s Day ideas for teens that can distract them a bit is to plan a movie night that is their choice. RomComs are not the only choice. A Marvel marathon can be a great way to show the love.

Need some Valentine’s Day ideas for a movie marathon? Here are some of our favorite movies from the 80s and our faves from Netflix.

Share the Things You Love with Your Teenager

This is one of my favorites and such a fun idea for Valentine’s Day. I think it would even be grat to do with your college student.

A friend who felt like she was losing her connection with her teen son, put together a list of all the favorite things she loved: books, songs, podcasts, movies, hobbies, etc., and shared it with her kid. Then, she asked him to put together the same.

Once a month, they each had to listen/read/do something that the other loved. That meant that my friend went and played paintball, listened to some interesting bands, and read a graphic Sci-Fi fantasy book that gave her nightmares–but she said she learned to appreciate her son so much better.

On the flip side, she got to listen to her favorite Brene Brown podcast on a college visit road trip with him as well as a biography on audiobook that she loved. He also taught her how to use Spotify.

The net-net is it brought them closer together, which in my mind makes it the perfect gift idea for any parent.

Added Bonus Valentine’s Day Idea

Take advantage of the time of year and do something unexpected with your teenager to remind them how much fun this day can be. Go ice skating or sledding, make dinner together, play some board games, plan an overnight getaway, or even just some hot drinks by the fire.

Sometimes just showing someone you care is the perfect valentine’s day gift there is.

We Need to Change the Way We Talk about What Makes a “Good” College Now

January 12, 2022 by Lisa McLaughlin Leave a Comment

Inside: This post about picking the right college for your teen is republished from Lisa McLaughlin’s Facebook page, The College Conversation. She is a college admissions consultant with nearly two decades of experience and a mom to a teen

I’m in the weeds guiding my own teenager through this college madness.

I’m not going to pretend that it’s perfect around here, because it’s not; parenting is hard work!

But, I have to tell you that (so far), it’s not what’s going on inside my home that’s the problem.

It’s the noise my daughter constantly needs to block out that’s causing the spin, especially when it comes to picking a college.

I’m obviously used to it. But good Gawd, it’s getting louder.

Because she’s a high school junior and everyone has an opinion.

As a college education consultant, this is what’s on my heart.

Just because you or your teen haven’t heard of a school, doesn’t mean it’s not any “good.”

Just because a college is highly selective doesn’t make it a better fit.

And even if you have a high-achieving student, your teen may not want to attend a more selective college.

A “good” school is one that’s right for YOUR teen and YOUR family.

Everything else is subjective nonsense.

I write this for parents as a reminder.

But frankly, it is more like a plea.

I am begging adults to pretty please with a cherry on top stop seeding doubt about the choices teens are making (mine included)! Picking the right college is only dependent on what’s right for your family.

But especially if those choices are well-informed and right for your child.

We need to stop judging the way other families are selecting a college.

Here’s a small taste of the judgment both my daughter and I have faced recently. Maybe some of this sounds familiar?

Before visiting a public university in Northern Washington last summer, we got the “haven’t heard of it, iss it any good?” comments.

When some parents, teachers, and peers hear that her first choice is what I call a “very good bet” due to its 80% acceptance rate, they tell us that she can “do better” by going to a more selective school.

One of her teachers, whom she greatly respects, attempted to seed some major doubt in her choices when he flat out said, “You’re not going to like it there. Why would you choose a school in the rain?!”

We’ve confidently decided on a list of four schools with varying levels of selectivity–two are good bets that she LOVES.

When she shared that list with a good friend’s dad, his response was: “Just four? You better apply to more! That’s not enough!”

I guarantee she has well-meaning friends and AP teachers that don’t understand why the bulk of her list contains less-selective colleges.

“Why would you work so hard just to go THERE?” people ask.

Come on folks…this is crazy-making.

It is not lost on me that she is fortunate to have me, a college admissions counselor, in her corner.

But the message she is getting outside of this home loudly screams:

“You are not enough.
You aren’t doing enough.
You aren’t pushing yourself enough.
You aren’t pushing yourself enough.
You need to DO more to BE the best.”

I am grateful these messages aren’t sticking to her.

She’s doing fine and laughs off the unsolicited advice most of the time.

But, enough is enough. It’s up to us to help stop this nonsense.

Picking the right college is personal.

We can start by taking an honest look at how we individually measure success for ourselves and for our teens. (You may also like to read: This Is One of the Many Reasons Our Teens Are So Stressed And What You Can Do About It)

We can come clean about the reality that a lot of college admissions angst stems from the lies we are told about what makes a college “good.”

And my goodness, we can take the pressure OFF our teens & each other by being mindful of this very important fact:

College admission decisions are intimately personal.

We never really know the whole story behind those decisions (even the ones our friends are making).

You know your child best. Be confident in that truth.

Help them cut the noise.

And take the pressure off.

Lisa McLaughlin, M.Ed., a college admissions strategist with more than 27 years of experience is the creator of The Admissions Formula, a 10 week college admissions course for parents of 8^th-11^th graders. She is determined to calm down the mania that has become college admission & remove anxiety & worry from the process. Ready to cut the noise? Grab Lisa’s FREE 5-part college admission video series “Taking The Pressure Off.”

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Why The Princeton Review Is The Best Course To Help Your Teen Prepare for the SAT

January 12, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Preparing your high school student for the SAT college exams can be a stressful process. College admissions is getting increasingly competitive and test scores can not only be the key to your teen getting into their first choice school, but also to qualifying to significant merit aid.

This is part of the reason, most high school students can benefit from taking an SAT preparation course. But with endless opinions out there and resources available, it’s hard to know which SAT preparation courses are worth investing in. Luckily, The Princeton Review is one of the most established test preparation companies and has decades of experience helping teens improve their SAT scores. This is why The Princeton Review is really the best course to invest in when it comes to preparing your son or daughter for the SAT.

Help your high schooler test more efficiently

Did you know that a huge issue facing highschool students taking the SAT exam is not knowing the most efficient way to answer the questions? If a student is unable to work at a fast pace during the test, it may cause them not to finish or rush as they near the end of time allotted. This can lead to wrong test answers and low scores. Using a resource like The Princeton Review ensures your child will know the best steps to take in order to answer the SAT questions to the best of their ability. And if you’re looking for help in this specific area, it’s always a good idea to connect with one of their tutors to hone your highschooler’s skills.

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Stop stressing memorization and focus on real knowledge

It’s hard not to hammer information in our brains until we don’t need it anymore. We all want to succeed and sometimes this seems like the only way to make that happen. However, The Princeton Review makes it easy to stop cramming every bit of information you need into your head and start truly grasping the concepts and ideas for yourself. There is nothing like seeing your child understand a subject that they struggled with in the past. Why not focus on actual knowledge and making it fun?

Pick the best plan for your SAT test preparation needs

There is not a one size fits all when it comes to SAT preparation, that is why The Princeton review offers a variety of plans to meet different needs and different budgets. There is something for every high school student, parent, and financial situation. With different tiers priced specifically for their respective areas, you can find what works for you and leave the rest. Their website has everything from the absolute basics, and goes up to the most thorough SAT test preparation courses you could want in case you’re looking for a significant score improvement.

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Design your plan for the score you need

If your teenager is looking at applying to some of the bigger names in colleges and universities, that might also mean their SAT exam scores need to be top notch. Some academic departments won’t even be able to accept you unless you hit a minimum SAT score requirement. With The Princeton Review, you have unlimited resources to get you the score you need for the college or university of your dreams. They have tutors specifically trained to help you achieve certain scores within a matter of months. And if you don’t get results, you can get your money back! What an amazing benefit of these options!

Take advantage of free tests and events

The Princeton Review has a remarkable number of free SAT prep tests as well as special events to help your highschool child succeed. You will have unlimited opportunities for your high school student to test their skills and learn where they are falling flat before SAT testing season comes around. Keep an eyes out for special things to nab up like free SAT prep trials.

With the SAT season coming up, don’t allow yourself or your child to panic when there are so many incredible ways to prepare them for their exam. The Princeton Review makes it possible for every highschool student to get the academic help they need to achieve their goals of getting accepted into a college or university. What are your biggest concerns with SAT prepping and what are you hoping to help your child accomplish? Whatever the case, best of luck in all of your SAT test preparation!

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This Is How You Love a Big Kid

January 10, 2022 by Elizabeth Spencer Leave a Comment

Inside: loving (and getting along) with your teenager may look a bit different.

This is me, loving you, my big kid.

Biting my tongue and biding my time.

Thinking. And waiting.

And it’s hard—SO hard—because it’s such a switch from what parenting you used to look like.

When you were little, loving you usually involved a lot of talking and doing. Like that time you tipped too far back in your little plastic chair and gashed your head on the edge of the fireplace hearth.

Then, I leaped into action and started talking.

Then, I picked you up and took you into the bathroom, and told you what to do and what not to do.

Then, I called the doctor and took you in and called your teacher and told her you wouldn’t be at preschool that day.

Then, I took you home and took care of you and told you more about what to do and what not to do.

Then things started to change a little bit.

But now, when it looks to me like you’re getting close to tipping your chair too far back or I’m not sure I’m crazy about the chair you’re sitting in in the first place, I mostly have to force myself to be still and be silent.

It’s not that I am not parenting you. It’s just that over all the years up until now, everything I said and everything I did was supposed to be preparing you for the time when I would do less and say less and watch you pick your chair and decide how far back in it you’re going to lean.

So I shut my mouth and sit on my hands and watch and wait.

Parenting teens is a lot about what you don’t say.

But I AM saying something.

I’m saying I trust you and believe in you and understand my role in your life right now.

And I AM doing something.

I’m staying out of the way so you can make your way. I’m stepping back so you can step up.

It’s not easy, this new version of loving you. It is, to be perfectly honest, often excruciating.

But when I have a chance to see you right your own chair and find your own balance? Well that, my darling, is nothing short of exhilarating.

It’s me, loving you.

Elizabeth Spencer is mom to two daughters (one teen and one young adult) who regularly dispense love, affection, and brutally honest fashion advice. She’s been married for 25 years to an exceedingly patient guy she picked up in church. She writes about faith, food, and family (with some occasional funny thrown in) at Guilty Chocoholic Mama and avoids working on her 100-year-old farmhouse by spending time on Facebook and Twitter

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Why The Princeton Review Is The Best Course To Prepare Your Teen For The ACT

January 10, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Is your high school student nearing the time for ACT test prepping? This can be a difficult road to navigate for both of you as you try to figure out how to best help them get the score they need for the colleges that are the best fit for them. The Princeton Review provides incredible resources for students who are in preparation for the ACT college exams.

With test preparation courses and tutors that can help with this exam specifically, you can take the guesswork out of knowing what information your child will need as they are studying. In today’s post, I’ll be sharing with you why I believe The Princeton Review is the best course to prepare your highschool child for the ACT exam.

Receive maximum results in minimal time

One of The Princeton Review’s major claims to fame is their ability to help your child receive academic education help in record time. Their unique ways of teaching and studying make high test scores seem tangible. In fact, on their website they even state that if you take their ACT course and don’t receive at least a thirty one or higher on the actual exam, you can get your money back! As they say “with us, score improvement is guaranteed”.

Make ACT test questions comprehensible for your highschooler

Did you know that one of the major problems facing students taking the ACT exam is that they don’t fully comprehend the question? In today’s world, tests can push you to your mental limit and your brain can only take in so much. If there is a question that doesn’t immediately click in a test taker’s head, it is likely that the question will take longer to answer and also damage any confidence that once existed. Reading a question and fully understanding what is asked of you is critical when taking the ACT exam, and The Princeton Review specifically helps with this learning process. They even have on demand tutoring available for their clients so answers and helpful instructions are literally only a click away.

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Get access to an abundance of ACT books and practice tests

If you’re hoping to find the perfect practice tests for your soon-to-be ACT tester, look no further. When you sign up for The Princeton Review, a multitude of practice books become available to you and your highschooler. You don’t have to wonder if anything is outdated or inaccurate, and these tests are available to you at any time. If you want to feel secure in the information your child has learned before ACT testing time, these practice tests and books are like gold. Not only will your child be tested, but they’ll be helped to correct any wrong information and gain a deeper understanding of what they missed.

Find the perfect tutor for every ACT test subject

The ACT is an important test for any young person who is taking it. And with that fact comes stress and uncertainty. When you’re faced with difficult times, there’s nothing like having a built-in cheerleader. The tutors at The Princeton Review are not only filled to the brim with helpful knowledge, but they also act as guidance toward a brighter future for your children. I couldn’t be happier with the experiences I have personally had and witnessed when it comes to these incredible teachers.

Take a course to cover all ACT highschool exam essentials

If nothing else, it’s always a good idea to have a great foundation for anything you’re being tested on. If you don’t have the time or financial resources to allocate to a larger course or specialized tutor, the ACT essentials course is a wonderful way to learn the basics without breaking a sweat.

Preparing your highschooler for ACT test prepping may seem impossible at first when you look into all the different options out there. With The Princeton Review, the work is done for you and every bit of information your child needs is at their fingertips. With unlimited plans, courses, and tutors offered on their website, there’s sure to be something that will not only prepare your highschooler for the ACT test, but also give you comfort knowing that they are in good hands. What kind of subjects are you looking into getting help with when it comes to ACT test preparation? If you’re not sure, it never hurts to check out The Princeton Review website for ideas!

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The Best ACT/SAT Prep For Your Teen – Tutor or Course

January 9, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Is your highschooler starting the process of preparing for college? If so, you’re likely looking into programs that can help them study for the SAT and ACT exams. It can be hard to know what college prep courses are worth your time, but The Princeton Review will take all of the guesswork out of your search.

The courses and individualized tutoring they offer is like no other, and in this post we’ll be discussing the different paths you can take for optimum test prepping. What’s right for you when it comes to SAT and ACT preparation? A course or a tutor? Here’s what you should consider as you make your decision.

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Taking a general SAT/ACT preparation course

Everyone learns in a different way and it’s important to think about what is best for the high school student who will be taking the SAT or ACT exams. The Princeton Review has a multitude of resources on their website, so there is always a match for whatever kind of learner you have. Is your child a self-starter looking to make their way into college? Chances are, a standard course taught by The Princeton Review will be just the ticket!

Getting a tutor to give your child specialized SAT/ACT prep

If you think you’re better off with a more individualized approach to learning, incredible tutors are waiting to help with whatever subjects you need assistance with. Tutors are perfect for kids who need some help not only getting excited about learning but also finding the best way for their brain to take in new information. Not to mention, organization skills have been known to increase when you have someone keeping you accountable for your work.

Create a plan around the school your child plans to attend

It’s no secret that there are some schools that require far higher SAT and ACT exam scores than others. If you’re hoping to go somewhere like an Ivy League school you’ll need to reach a certain score before they can even consider letting you in. If exceptionally high test scores are what you want, a tutor from The Princeton Review is definitely the way to go. Did you know they even have guarantees on many of their courses and tutoring options? Look into what scores your dream college or university requires and choose the plan that will help your child graduate with amazing results!

Decide what path is right for you and your finances

For many students, their ability to receive financial aid hinges on what test scores they receive. We all know money is an important factor in most everything we do in today’s world. Luckily, The Princeton Review has a ton of different pricing tiers available for purchase. For instance, their most popular SAT plan costs $1,499 and guarantees a score of 1400 or higher in two months. However, their self-paced option is also a fantastic resource of the same information in a less expensive and more generalized way.

Choose a time limit and schedule that works for you

There’s no need to add stress to an already stressful time. Especially when there are so many different options available that can help your child achieve their dream while also working around their everyday life. You should take into consideration what kind of time frame you’re working with as you plan ahead, and luckily The Princeton Review has an abundance of courses and tutoring schedules available for you to choose from.

Find the path that gives your child the most confidence

When it comes to deciding if you want to hire a tutor or take a course for SAT and ACT preparation, all the information and advice out in the world can feel daunting. We all want the best for our kids and helping them make choices like this can make a huge difference for their future. There are plenty of SAT/ACT test resources available to you, so there’s no need to stress about the future. This is a great time to empower your highschool kids with what makes them feel their best.

I hope you’ll consider checking out The Princeton Review as I absolutely believe in what they do and how their programs work. If you want your child to succeed when taking the SAT or ACT exams, know what’s right for you. Are you a test course person or would you rather stick with a tutor?

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33 of the Most Hilarious, Relatable Quotes About Parenting Teenagers

January 4, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Inside: Sometimes the right meme can get you through that tough day. Here’s 30 of the best quotes about parenting teenagers.

Raising teens is truly a roller coaster experience.

We used to think the early years of parenting were hard with the sleepless nights, constant battles, and tantrums that go on for what feels like forever.

Then the teenage years hit, and the truth is there are still sleepless nights, constant battles, and tantrums that go on for what feels like forever.

Along with a lot of other complex issues. Nothing is quite like navigating the teenage years.

It is stressful. It is exhausting. It is hard.

Once we are in the thick of parenting teenage daughters and teenage sons, we suddenly understand that adolescent problems are so much bigger than we ever expected.

And we can feel alone. The wealth of resources and support that are there for parents of newborns seems to dissipate as our kids get older.

Throw in technology, and yes, even a pandemic, and these years can make us want to stay in bed until they are all over.

So, when parenting teens feels overwhelming and lonely and unbearable, nothing is better than a relatable meme to make you feel like you aren’t the only one struggling through this time.

Here are 33 of the Funniest Quotes about Parenting Teenagers

Who hasn’t been here? Trying to keep your mouth quiet about that new boyfriend or that different outfit or the choice they made, but your face says it all. Check out Whitney Fleming Writes.

Excuse me, Doctor? Is there anything you can give me for a condition called parenting teenagers? Find more funny from at Kyle Ocasio.

I mean, seriously? How do spoons just disappear? Via Six Pack Mom.

This pretty much sums it up. It’s the circle of life! Follow I Might Be Funny.

Sometimes parenting teens means showing them who is boss. Via Sarcastic Mommy.

No one told us that 98 percent of raising teens is driving them somewhere, waiting for them somewhere, or planning to go somewhere….Via Keeper of the Fruit Loops.

How lucky are we??? Via Sarcastic Mommy.

I’m not saying my kids aren’t tough, but I did grow up in the 80s. Via Moms of Tweens and Teens.

One hundred per cent accurate! Via at Grown and Flown.

Asking these over and over and over again. Via Changing Perspectives.

We’re on constant hurricane watch over here. Follow Whitney Fleming Writes.

Sometimes the best quotes about parenting teenagers comes from the teenagers themselves. By the way, we gladly accept. Via saucynthesuburbs.

There’s nothing they like better than a little 13 hour snooze. Via Grown and Flown.

This is the most accurate analogy we’ve ever heard. Via saucynthesuburbs.

Fly little birdies, but make sure you come back to the nest ASAP! Follow Laura Hanby Hudgens, Writer.

Connecting with teens sometimes means staying up way past our bedtimes.

Follow Julianna W Miner.

I mean, this might be the best advice ever. Follow Sara on twitter.

I thought we had the only teen who knew everything! Via Michele Tafoya.

What goes around, comes around, kid! Follow Mommy Needs A Life.

They grow up so fast. They don’t call this the wallet years for nothing. Follow Jessie.

I’m glad my teen communicates with me, but honestly! Follow Marriage and Martinis.

Some of the best parenting teenager quotes you will say over and over again.

Via Your Teen For Parents.

Surprise! You still don’t get any sleep!

And every single movie, especially from the 80s. Follow Simon Holland.

It’s too late for me, kid. Save yourself. Good luck. Follow Deena Lang.

Seriously! It didn’t get big on TikTok. It was big when I was your age. What don’t you understand???? Follow Rachel Sobel.

I mean, what does it take to get a teen boy to cut his hair nowadays? Follow The Mother Octopus.

I pushed you out of my vagina and that’s all that I get? Via Lady Lawya.

They willl try to wear you down. Resist! Via Scary Mommy.

Parenting teen pro tip: It is ALWAYS your fault. ALWAYS. Via Mary Fairy Bo Berry.

Sometimes this happens with teenage sons, too. Avoid at all costs. Follow Joe Heenan.

He will never see that hoodie again. Via Covfefe Rock.

And this parenting teens quote from Mom.Whine.Repeat pretty much sums it all up!

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As a college education consultant, this is what’s on my heart.

We need to stop judging the way other families are selecting a college.

Picking the right college is personal.

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