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My Daughter Coming Out as Bisexual Made Me a Better Parent

June 24, 2022 by Shelby Spear Leave a Comment

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Inside: It’s challenging to manage the big emotions when the dreams we have for our kids don’t come to fruition, but such a necessary part of parenting a teenager.

When it comes to motherhood, no book, podcast, or conversation can prepare us for the cosmic rush of love that infiltrates our chest the moment we first lay eyes on our child. Nor can anyone prepare us for the savage ache we’ll feel in all the moments of duress while raising them—especially during the tween and teen years.

The depth and nuance of a mother’s love far exceed the constraints of language. You simply know what this kind of love does to you when you know.

For me, the love I have for my kids swallowed me whole.

The other thing that consumed me was the story I was telling myself about how motherhood would play out. I had an epic list of expectations and lofty dreams about how my children’s lives would unfold, not to mention boatloads of preconceived beliefs and ideals about how to be a mom, including how I would behave and feel.

Can anyone relate?

Then I was in the middle of motherhood, and, well, need I say more?

Motherhood is the ultimate reminder that we should never expect what we are expecting. When we pigeonhole our ideals and cling to a list of ‘shoulds,’ we merely limit our experience and set ourselves up for despair.

Letting go of our preconceived expectations about parenting

The challenge for all of us is learning how to respond and adapt when our fairytale narrative about how motherhood will look starts to unravel, or our scripted dreams for our kid’s future don’t pan out the way we envisioned.

Through 28 years of watching my best-laid mental plans about motherhood crack beneath my feet, I’ve learned the most viable action is to move from our head and all its posturing into our heart and its intuitive nature—from fear to love.

The idea that our wish is motherhood’s command is an illusion.

We know this deep down. Living from love looks like being fully present and loving the children standing in front of us, exactly as they are, to the best of our ability in any given circumstance.

It also looks like loving ourselves in the same way. This is the real deal. This is what we can control. This is what our children need most. This is where we flourish alongside them. 

We do this when we let go of all the mental bartering about how reality isn’t matching our preconceived scripts and focus our attention on the abundance of what is right in front of us. Where attention goes, energy flows, and what we resist persists.

So, rather than draining our reserves by railing against the seeming lack of what isn’t going according to plan, we serve ourselves and our kids well when we look for the good in every situation and make peace with it the best we can.

Parenting often doesn’t go how you planned

Our teen daughter coming out as bisexual to us seven years ago drove the importance of these truths home.

We assured her of our unconditional love and acceptance and championed the certainty of her worth. We told her never to doubt God’s love, no matter what anyone else says, and to believe God, and we had her back. But I still struggled to process the incongruence between the reality in front of me and what I’d mentally rehearsed about her future.

I don’t think there’s a mother on the planet who doesn’t want her child to be fully seen, fully heard, and fully loved by others. This is even more so when you parent a gay teen.

So, out of fear, I worried about how she would fare in a world that may not accept her as the beautiful human I knew she was. Out of fear, I struggled to let go of the love story I’d penned in my mind that saw her marrying a man who would love and protect her from harm in a world that now felt even more unsafe. Out of fear, I agonized over whether I’d do the right things for her going forward. 

But in the end, all I needed to do was move into my heart and fiercely love my daughter. I needed to surrender the fears in my head and let LOVE guide both of us forward. That shift made all the difference.

Looking back, I now see how much I invested in the mental mapping of all three of my kids’ futures.

While all of us as parents have dreams for our kids, it’s humbling to be reminded that our dreams aren’t their dreams.

What we think is best or right or suited for them is based on our map of the world, which isn’t their map. They have their own internal compass, desires, and pockets full of hopes.

When you find joy in simply observing and watching our kids’ lives unfold, the stress from unmet expectations falls away.

Knowing our children are healthy, happy, and whole is the most potent drug on the planet.

And the best way to contribute to this trifecta of ideals is to let go of expectations, hold the dreams for our kids loosely, and love them with abandon as we watch life teach both of us.

Life is a learning school and letting go of our fear of the unknown and accepting that we are not in control of anything but ourselves creates a sanctuary of peace and joy with a forever shelf life for both mother and child as we find our way and become who we are.

Shelby is a Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach, Certified Meditation Teacher (CMT), author, freelance writer, speaker, and love enthusiast who is passionate about helping others change the way they look at things so the things they look at change”. She is the co-author of the book, How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don’t need to say, “I’m fine.”) and has numerous stories featured in the national publication, Guideposts, 160+ featured articles around the web, and blogs at shelbyspear.com

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The Best Connections – How To Have Fun Together With Your Teen

June 23, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Inside: Activities to help teens and parents spend quality time together and have fun!

We get it, you want to spend time with your teenager, but they aren’t always enthusiastic about hanging out with you. And on those occasions when they are willing, it can feel impossible to find something to do together that you both can agree on and enjoy. You may waste the time you have trying to decide on something, and that’s not really the best way to bond with each other. At this point, you may have even given up hope on finding activities to do with your teen.

In general, if you really want to spend time with your teen, you need to focus on what’s really important – being together. How you’re spending that time or even where you’re spending that time shouldn’t really matter. Take advantage of any opportunity presented and then be willing to let them do the choosing. Also, you might be surprised that there is often common ground to be found with choices that you both will enjoy.

To make is easier, we’ve provide options for all types of different scenarios, so you’re prepared to take advantage of any opening. Audio activities for the car, Viewing activities for later in the day, and some other more creative ideas for any time in between.

So next time you’re looking for something to do together with your teen, look no further then right here. We’re sure that you’ll not only find something great for the both of you, but that you’ll find it without having to search for hours too.

What to Listen to

10 Of The Best Must Listen To Podcasts For Teens

Podcasts are a great way to turn any task into an exciting family listening event. Great to listen to in the car, while eating lunch, or even while exercising together, these podcasts are sure to have both you and your teen hanging on the edge of your seats. Not to mention all of these podcasts are incredibly informative, guaranteed to give your teen valuable information to use in the future. In this post you’ll find podcasts of all different genres, so there’s sure to be something here that you’ll both love.

Hilariously Funny Podcasts for Teens That Will Have Them Laughing Out Loud

They say that laughter is the best medicine, but did you know that it’s also a great way to bond with your teen? Turning on one of these podcasts is sure to have you and your teenager rolling on the floor with laughter, and they’re a great reason to spend some quality time together as well. Never underestimate the power of a good laugh!

Twenty of the Best Audio Books For Teens (That Parents Will Enjoy Too!)

While the days may be gone where you can sit down with your, now, teenager and read them a book that definitely doesn’t mean literature can’t still bring you together. Instead of reading, try listening! These audio books are great for listening to together with your teen and are sure to bring back fond memories for both of you. There’s also many different genres, so no matter what you’re both into, you’re sure to find something you can enjoy.

What to Watch

The Best Documentaries To Watch With Your Teens and Tweens

Yes it’s true, some documentaries can definitely be very dull, not something that you would want to watch with a teenager who can’t seem to sit still. However, not all documentaries are built the same, and these ones in particular will not only engage your teen, but they’ll have you engrossed as well. With some incredibly interesting and harrowing stories, these documentaries will get you and your teen talking up a storm, giving you a great way to connect with them.

The Best TV Series Families With Tweens Can Enjoy Together

Most teenagers love TV. So why on earth is it that we can never seem to get them to sit down and watch a show with us? The answer, I’m sorry to tell you, is probably because you haven’t been able to find a series that you both can love. Don’t worry though, we’ve got your back! These series are all sure to have you and your teen hooked in no time, and the best part is that this can be a nightly activity. Meaning you can send some quality time with your teen every day.

The Best 80’s Teen Movies Every Parent Should Watch With Their Teens

Sometimes teenagers can be very against anything that they think comes from the “distant past”. Which is frustrating for parents because we want to be able to share the things we liked at their age with them. Thankfully, the solution is very simple, just prove to them that they’ll enjoy some those “ancient relics”. And to help you out, these movies are a great way to do just that, with many different genres there is sure to be something your teen will love watching with you.

The Best Tween Movies To Stream

While we want to show our teens the things we liked in our childhood, ironically the same applies the other way around. Your teen wants you to be interested in the things they are, even if they say the opposite. That’s why these movies are a great way to connect, because they will be overjoyed that you picked a movie that they would have normally chosen. And don’t worry, even though they’re made for your teen we promise that you’ll love these movies too.

20 Fun and Heartwarming Modern Teen Movies on Netflix

Maybe your teen is having a bad day, or a difficult week in general, you want to be there for them and cheer them up but you’re not sure how. Well sometimes the best thing we can do as parents is just to put on a feel good movie and sit with them for a while. Your presence will mean more to them than words will in that moment, and it is a great way to show you care. These are a great selection of movies that are sure to help you get your teen smiling again.

What to Do

50+ Screen-Free Activities for Tweens and Teens

While technology can certainly be fun for the whole family, it’s also good to get out and do something with your teen too every once in a while. These screen-free activities are great to get you and your teen out doing something, getting both of you a break from the tech and having a bit of fun together.

40 Awesome Board Games For Teens They’ll Want to Play Again and Again

There are about a million board games out there, and so while we know that they’re a great way to spend some quality time with our teens it can be difficult to find the right games. No need to worry though because we have you covered. These awesome board games are sure to be loved by the whole family and have your teen asking you to play again tomorrow.

8 Simple and Creative Ideas to Connect with Your Teen or Tween

There is a general sense among tweens and teens that parents don’t ask questions because we really care or want to listen to what our kids have to say. Instead, they think we are simply prying or looking for a reason to give them yet another lecture. That’s why it can often be hard to make meaningful connections through conversation. We’ve got your back though, as these Ideas will all help to start conversation with your teen in fun, engaging ways. This way it isn’t their parents interrogating them, it’s a game being played.

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10 Awesome and Rewarding Trade Jobs For Teens to Consider

June 22, 2022 by Angela Anagnost-Repke Leave a Comment

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In this post: The traditional four-year college experience is not for everyone, and trade school is not a cop-out to this type of education. Here are ten trade opportunities that can be rewarding and lucrative.

Some high school grads may be a little leery of attending a trade school over college. There is currently a stigma associated with trade schools, with many thinking students only go to a trade school if they can’t hack a typical college or have a problem in an academic setting. Additionally, the old “American dream” focused more on desk jobs, so some people look down on jobs where people use their hands or work outside of traditional offices.

One survey found that 23 percent of college attendees only enrolled because they felt like it was expected of them.

This could not be further from the truth, however, and there are so many reasons why trade school could be right for your child.

The benefits of pursuing a career in a trade

With trades being in such high demand, choosing a trade could be the right choice for your teen. According to the ETI School of Trades, “The nation’s labor shortage is at an all-time high and the need for skilled trade workers is becoming urgent. Industry leaders say it’s due to the stigma around trades. American construction companies are struggling to find qualified workers for jobs that pay an average of $35,800 annually and require little traditional education.”

The cost of living and college tuition is also skyrocketing, and often, college grads end up not even using their degree (me, raising my hand). So, all of that college debt is just burning a hole in their bank account and can take years to pay off as well. Trade schools cost substantially less and can get teens into the workplace sooner, leaving them with a great sense of accomplishment and independence. Not only are these young adults earning a solid income, but most importantly, they’re doing something they love.

Trades are often great stepping stones to other careers. For example, an HVAC-certified technician can use their experience to become a general contractor or project manager, and a graphic designer can end up running a marketing department at a large company.

Finally, some trades can be extremely lucrative with the starting salaries substantially higher than traditional jobs secured post-college.

Don’t limit your child because of pre-conceived (and unjust) opinions about certain jobs. Let’s encourage the teens in our lives to live a fulfilled life and be bold by learning a trade.

10 awesome trade jobs for your teen to consider

Here’s a hefty list to get your teen started in looking at trades.

1. Skilled Labor and Building Trades (Construction/Home Repair/Builders)

Building and other skilled trades are in high demand right now. Where I live, people have to wait far too long for a contractor, electrician, plumber, and more. This is most definitely the right time for teens to get into these types of trades, both for repair and new contruction/building. The options can include everything from carpentry and masonry to painting and HVAC.

Of note, construction managers are among the most highest-paying trade jobs, with the median salary just shy of six-figures. Also called project managers and general contractors, they oversee projects from start to end. Most construction managers have an associate’s degree and on-the-job training, so starting off in a specific trade and then expanding your responsibilities can be a great career path for a passionate, hard-working young adult.

While this field can be physically challenging, the opportunities are endless. Many who retire in this field continue working by expanding their education to include building inspection or instructors.

2. Mechanical

There are a plethora of mechanical jobs your teen can choose from if they’re skilled in or passionate about this area. Automotive, aircraft, diesel, and marine mechanics are just a few options with many of these areas facing extreme shortages.

Interestingly, elevator and escalator repair mechanics have a median salary of nearly $90k. Those with basic mechanical skills can apply for apprenticeships in order to receive their licenses and become certified.

3. Culinary Arts

If your creative kid loves to be in the kitchen then culinary arts could be the place for them. Learning this trade will always be in demand and the career options are endless. Nursing homes, hospitals, schools and universities, entertainment facilities, and hotels/resorts are always looking for qualified culinary specialists, in addition to the entrepreneurial opportunities of owning your own food business. Plus, your teen can learn to express themselves in a delicious way.

4. Cosmetology

Learning a specific trade in cosmetology is a great, flexible option for many young adults, and many community colleges and vocational schools offer these types of courses to high school students. The multi-billion-dollar beauty industry offers a wide range of choices, including hair stylists, estheticians, barbers, nail technicians, makeup artists, and more. Plus, a lot of the time they can make their own hours and live the life they want to live.

5. The Arts

For many who pursue trade school, getting paid to use your creativity is the biggest perk of the job. Trade schools for the arts can include everything from masonry design and furniture construction to tattoo artists and interior design. There are also a lot of trade and certificate programs for those who want to integrate a trade with tech, such as audio arts, editing, and recording 3-D arts and gaming, new media design, creative writing and copy editing, and application design.

Also, encourage your child to pursue careers that ignite their passions, such as photography, fashion, art curation, music, or writing. The Internet has provided a great opportunity for students to combine their creativity with a fulfilling career.

6. Criminal Justice

You don’t need to have a law degree to enter criminal justice. Post-high school students can pursue a career as a paralegal/legal assistant, court reporter, private investigator, law enforcement, or even homeland security. There is a shortage of qualified professionals and most training programs are only one to two years.

7. Medical/Health Sciences

The United States is facing an extreme shortage of skilled, licensed health care professionals. The combination of an aging population and the pandemic has caused a surging demand for qualified medical and health services. In fact, according to the Bureau of Labor and Statistics (BLS), employment in healthcare occupations is projected to add more jobs than any other occupational group. They expect to see 15% growth from 2019 to 2029, much higher than the average for all occupation groups and meaning an addition of about 2.4 million jobs.

The opportunities in health services are endless and often lucrative. In fact, radiation therapists, sonographers, and dental hygenistis are among the highest paying trade jobs, but many are finding fulfilling careers as nursing assistants, medical assistants, therapists and medical technicians.

8. Agricultural

If you have a child who likes to work outside and with their hands, agriculture is a great career. Some people only think of agriculture only as it relates to farming, but there are many other opportunities, such as a crop adjuster, feed mill manager, veterinary tech, landscape architect, machine mechanic, green house manager, or food quality assurance.

9 Information Technology

The world is definitely run by technology and there will never be a shortage of these types of jobs. While some career paths require a four-year degree, there are many lucrative tech jobs that need only a certification or associate’s degree and some hands-on experience. If you are raising a techie, you may want them to investigate an IT career such as a web developer, computer programmer, or IT support specialist

Employment for IT technicians in the U.S. is projected to grow 9% between 2020 and 2030. These professionals earn a median income of $55,510. The highest-paid technicians work for telecommunications companies and make a median salary of $74,220 per year.

10. Industrial

Some recent grads may be interested in industrial trades such as a steam engineer, cargo freight agent, ironworker, paving equipment operator, asbestos control and remediation, welder, tool and die maker, metal fabricator, and more. While these jobs can be physically straining, many find the work interesting and rewarding.

Trade schools are not the easy way out

While most trade studies take less time to complete than traditional college, many skilled labor positions often include an apprenticeship that lasts several years. That being said, a trade apprenticeship is often a paid position that leads to acquiring direct experience in their career path.

Trade jobs are often more steady and readily available than other jobs that fluctuate with the market. For someone who takes the time to gain experience and hone their craft, they can expect long-term job security.

Angela-Anagnost Repke is a writer and writing instructor dedicated to raising two empathetic children. She hopes that her graduate degrees in English and counseling help her do just that. Since the pandemic, Angela and her family have been rejuvenated by nature and moved to northern Michigan to allow the waves of Lake Michigan to calm their spirits. She has been published in Good Housekeeping, Good Morning America, Parents, Romper, and many more. 

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Discord – Why Your Teen Loves It And What Parents Need To Know

June 22, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Inside: What is Discord and what parents should understand about the popular teen platform

What Exactly is Discord?

To put it simply, Discord is not easily stuck inside a singular box. Probably the best way to describe Discord would be a multi-purpose communication app. While it certainly has similar elements to other already existing services, what sets Discord apart is that is does the job of many of these services all in one place.

It possess voice chat servers similar to Skype or TeamSpeak. Like Reddit, Discord it is easily used as a public forums center, with a slight difference being that Discord allows private chat forums as well. Discord also possesses elements of some social media apps, as a user is able to share content and host their own “Channel”.

Discord is also just an incredibly user friendly app. The experience of both getting signed up for and using it is simple and seamless. It makes communication with both friends and larger public groups easy and it can be accessed on just about any platform. Furthermore, discord is incredibly well maintained and marketed with constant updates and server maintenance.

On the surface, Discord really appears as the ideal communication service for teens, and in many ways that is true. However, just like any social media app, forum or online community used by teenagers there are some drawbacks. For this reason, it is useful for parents to understand a little bit more about both the pros and cons of Discord.

Why Does My Teen Love It?

Perhaps it seems like your teen is obsessed with the app, or you can just tell that they are spending quite a bit of time using the services it provides. You may be worried or curious, and both of those reactions are justified as we parents haven’t really seen an app like discord ever before, and we certainly didn’t grow up with things like it.

If you were to ask your teen why they love it, they will most likely not be able to nail down one or two specific reasons. They may even question why you ask, as some don’t see it as a love but a necessity. Either way, at first glance those answers can seem suspicious but we’re here to tell you those responses are actually incredibly normal.

Often, the real reason that your teen loves Discord isn’t because they are obsessed with it, but because it makes many of their favorite activities much easier or more enjoyable.

One popular teen usage of Discord is as a voice-chat while playing video games. While some games have their own team-speak services built in, most don’t, and those that do often are not that great. Discord is an easier and higher quality option when your teen wants to talk to their friends they’re playing with. Them and all of their friends can join a chat server within seconds and talk to each other while they game.

Another popular use is for private group chats with their friends. Yes they could just have one over text, but in discord they are often for a specific purpose, sometimes in reference to a particular game or maybe to help each other with a class at school. It’s easy to share attachments and other links on Discord and the server will save them as well. Whatever the purpose, these chats are convenient as Discord can be accessed from pretty much any device you can think of.

Besides private chats, public chats are also incredibly appealing to your teen. If they need help with just about anything from Algebra to college research, there’s a very good chance that they can find a public chat/forum on Discord that can help them. Not only that, but they can often get quick responses from chat members if they have specific questions.

The other part of these public chats is that they can often be fun to socialize in, with some channels hosted by content creators or organizations specifically designed to create a community feeling. It can be an outlet for a teenager that just wants to socialize with people that enjoy the same things they do in a stress free and welcoming environment.

Overall, if you’re looking for a designated reason for your teen’s love of Discord you won’t find one. The novelty that attracts teens is really just that it fills so many roles and on top of that is very easy to use. Not to mention that it’s free.

What Are The Drawbacks?

While Discord may seem like a miracle app, especially to your teen, there are still some things that you should watch out for as a parent.

Like any app that gives your teen open access to the internet, there are bound to be some darker places that you need to make sure your teen avoids. While chat communities set up by content creators or other organizations can often be a great space, there are some communities that are not as teenager-friendly.

While many of these chat communities are private, invite only as to keep them from being reported and shut down, some will certainly be open to the public. The chance your teen runs into one of these is very low, but it is important for them and for you as a parent to know they exist.

Discord also is a messaging app, and so your teen can receive messages from other users. These messages will only be message requests unless sent by a friended profile, but even then your teen will still be able to read those message requests if they open them. As one can assume, this opens the possibility for scam messages, bot spamming, and other less than desirable situations for your teen.

Discord itself does not house parental controls as of yet, but there are parental control apps, which are able to monitor the app for you to make sure your teen is staying out of trouble. One of the most popular is Bark. Bark monitors text chat within Discord’s direct messages on Android and Amazon devices and alerts parents to potential issues, including cyberbullying, depression, suicidal ideation, threats of violence, and more. Overall, Bark is a great comprehensive parental control app that is great beyond just its application to Discord.

Click here to find out more about Bark

Thankfully, Discord does do their best to keep their app a relatively clean and safe service, banning users who violate their code of conduct and monitoring their servers constantly. However, no service is perfect and so you should be aware, as a parent, of the potential problems, few as they may be.

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50+ Awesome and Inspirational Quotes for Teenagers

June 20, 2022 by Whitney Fleming Leave a Comment

Inside: 50+ inspirational quotes for teenagers that may give parents a boost as well.

Sometimes as parents, we get so consumed with how hard it is raising a teen that we forget how hard it is to be a teenager.

And while the teenage years are hard on everyone involved, today’s teens face a multitude of challenges that we can’t even fathom: social media, political unrest, school shootings, pandemics, increasing academic pressure, and the list goes on and on. That’s in addition to the social awkwardness, general anxiety about fitting in, body changes, and peer pressure that comes along with adolescence.

Honestly, sometimes it’s hard to find the words to encourage your child through these turbulent times. A teenage life is not easy.

That’s why we love a great motivational quote. Having the right message can get us through tough times, stick with us when we’re facing adversity, and help us tackle challenging situations. That’s why you often see business leaders, sports figures, heads of state, and other important people often using quotes to inspire us in their speeches and other communications. They work!

When I was in middle school, my dad was laid off from his job and started packing my lunch. Each day on my brown paper bag he would write an inspiring or motivational quote. At first I was mortified, but then my friends and I would be eager to see the quote each day and started to talk about them. In fact, one of the quotes he put on my lunch bag became my life mantra: “I am a part of all that I have met” from Alfred, Lord Tennyson.

Quotes, mantras, and positive affirmations can encourage and inspire us when we need it most. Also, since teens don’t always want to listen to mom and dad, a quote from a celebrity or even another person they can relate to and who has “been there” can change their entire mindset. Whether it’s an inspirational song lyric from Taylor Swift or a funny meme from their favorite YouTuber, the right quote can literally change your adolescent’s mood and mindset.

We love it when we see our kids hanging up positive quotes in their rooms, sharing them as memes, or when we see them as screen savers on their phones. Inspirational quotes for teenagers can sometimes change the trajectory of their entire day.

Are you looking for a little inspiration to share with your teens and tweens? Here are 50 of our favorites:

Inspirational Quotes for Teenagers

Sometimes during the teen years we just need a little reminder about going towards the good.

“Beautiful people are not always good, but good people are always beautiful.” —Imam Ali

“You have to be authentic, you have to be true, and you have to believe in your heart.” – Howard Schultz.

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of someone else.” – Judy Garland

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” – E.E Cummings.

“The people who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” – Steve Jobs.

“You must always have faith in people. And most importantly, you must always have faith in yourself.” -Elle Woods, Legally Blonde

 “Never dull your shine for somebody else.” – Tyra Banks.

“You will always pass failure on your way to success.”– Mickey Rooney

“No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.” – Robin Williams 

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”- William James.

“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.”- Hellen Keller

 “Always admit when you’re wrong. You’ll save thousands in therapy… and a few friendships too.”- Harvey Fierstein

 “Take care not to listen to anyone who tells you what you can and can’t be in life.” – Meg Medina

 “If you don’t believe in yourself, why is anyone else going to believe in you.” – Tom Brady

“The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.” – Matty Mullins

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” -Aristotle

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. Because how you treat yourself sets the standard for how others treat you.” – Steve Maraboli

Quotes on Adolescence

Here are some great inspirational quotes for teenagers to let your teen know that you get it.

“When you become a teenager, you step onto a bridge. You may already be on it. The opposite shore is adulthood. Childhood lies behind. The bridge is made of wood. As you cross, it burns behind you.”- Gail Carson Levine

“I wish all teenagers could filter through songs instead of turning to drugs and alcohol.”- Taylor Swift

“Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you’ve got a big heart and aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.” -Brigitte Nicole

“One of the cruelties of teenage hood is that you’ll never know what your parents were really like at your age, and they’ll never accurately remember.” – Una LaMarche.

“You need to remember that love does not mean one person gives all and another person receives all.”  -Abirami P. Kurukkal 

“If you are always trying to be normal, you’ll never know how amazing you can be.” –Maya Angelou

“Stop waiting for something or someone to come and make you happy. Meditate daily. Breathe. Come on. You’re okay. You have friends. Love them. Respect them. Go out and play. Learn to be alone.” – Jenifer Lewis 

 “Every teenager in the world feels like that, feels broken or out of place, different somehow, royalty mistakenly born into a family of peasants. The difference in your case is that it’s true.” – Cassandra Clare

“High school is like the training wheels for the bicycle of real life.”– ‘Ghost World’

Motivation for Teens

Looking for something to motivate your teenager or push them towards a goal. These have you covered!

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill.

 “Don’t be afraid of failure. This is the way to succeed.” – LeBron James

 “Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” – Michael Jordan

“The secret of success is to do the common things uncommonly well.” – John D. Rockefeller.

“When you replace ‘why is this happening to me’ with ‘what is this trying to teach me?’ Everything shifts.” – Unknown

“Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try” .-unknown

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“Nothing is particularly hard if you break it down into small jobs.” – Henry Ford.

“Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up.”- Mary Holloway

 “My advice is, never do tomorrow what you can do today. Procrastination is the thief of time.” – Charles Dickens

“We must use time creatively, in the knowledge that the time is always ripe to do right.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

 “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better.  It’s not.” – Dr. Seuss

“Everyone you admire was once a beginner.” – Jack Butcher

Young people willing to push super hard to make something happen are among the most powerful forces in the world. Sam Altman

“If you’re making mistakes, it means you’re out there doing something.” – Neil Gaiman

Youth Empowerment Quotes

“Being confident means believing in yourself. Ego means needing to prove that you’re better than other people.” -Barbara De Angelis

“Look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see, and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious.” -Stephen Hawking

“To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone, and a funny bone.” – Reba McEntire

“We should all celebrate our individuality and not be embarrassed or ashamed of it.” – Johnny Depp

 “Live your life like you are 80 years old looking back on your teenage years.” – Taylor Swift

“Note to self: self-love isn’t selfish.” –Dua Lipa

It is what we make out of what we have given, not what we are given, that separates one person from another.” – Nelson Mandela.

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” – Nelson Mandela

Use your youth so that you may have comfort to remember it when it has forsaken you, and not sigh and grieve at the account thereof.” – Walter Raleigh.

“Never tell a young person that anything cannot be done.”  – G. M. Trevelyan

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” – Anne Frank, ‘Anne Frank’s Tales From The Secret Annex’

 “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.” – Henry Ford

Teen Quotes for Tough Times

Phones and social media have completely changed the landscape for teenagers. Many adolescents face low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. Parents and caregivers need to work hard to promote confidence and self-acceptance amongst today’s young people. Here are some encouraging quotes for teens going through tough times.

“The darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrow.” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

“Tough times never last, but tough people do.” – Robert H. Schuller

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember…the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” – Henry Ford.

“Even on your worst days, you are always worth love and respect. Don’t ever settle for anything less.” -Hannah Irelan

“Hard days are the best because that’s when champions are made. If you push through the hard days, then you can get through anything.”– Gabby Douglas

“You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice.”

Grow through what you go through. -Tyrese Gibson

“Stop waiting for something or someone to come and make you happy. Meditate daily. Breathe. Come on. You’re okay. You have friends. Love them. Respect them. Go out and play. Learn to be alone.” -Jenifer Lewis 

“No matter what you’re going through, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.”- Demi Lovato

“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”- Steve Maraboli

“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.”- Virginia Satir

 “You can often change your circumstances by changing your attitude.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“After a while, you learn to ignore the names people call you and just trust who you are.” – Shrek

 “Oh yes, the past can hurt. But you can either run from it, or learn from it.” –Rafiki, The Lion King

“I think it’s so important to be comfortable in your own skin.” – James Charles

Funny Teen Quotes

“Remember that as a teenager you are in the last stage of your life when you will be happy to hear the phone is for you. “- Fran Lebowitz, ‘Social Studies’

“Youthfulness is about how you live, not when you were born.”– Karl Lagerfeld

“Real teenage boys aren’t like characters in the books you read. They smell funny and are obsessed with video games and say dumb things. They’re still learning, just like you. “- Stacey Jay, ‘Juliet Immortal’

“Adolescence is just one big walking pimple.” – Carol Burnett.

“Teenagers complain there’s nothing to do, then stay out all night doing it.”- Bob Philips

“As I’ve said many times, the single most oppressed class in America right now is the teenager.”- Joe Bob Briggs

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Dear Moms, You Don’t Have to Count the Summers Left with Your Teens

June 16, 2022 by Whitney Fleming Leave a Comment

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Inside: Why this mom isn’t counting the time she has left with her teenagers.

“Hey, Mom,” my teen son says as he walks in the door from soccer practice.

He startles me a little. I’m still not used to hearing his ever-deepening voice.

I look up, half expecting to see a stranger staring back at me. And in some ways, he is a stranger.

No longer is there this sweet, blonde little boy running into the house to greet me with a mischievous grin, sparkling blue eyes, and big hugs.

Instead, now this laid-back man-child enters the room in a sort of slow, distracted manner.

His smile no longer comes quite so easily; the hugs when they come are far less enthusiastic.  And I have no doubt that those sparkling blue eyes that now look straight into my own will be looking down at me in a matter of months.

I know with each inch he grows taller, he is inching further away from me.

But I just can’t bring myself to count the summers until he is gone.

I understand the good intentions behind such sentiments. We all want to keep our kids in their childhoods for a little longer.

I always nod with appreciation each time a kind older woman admires my children at a store or restaurant and says with longing in her eyes, “Appreciate these moments, they’ll be grown and gone before you know it.”

I really do try to be grateful for the time I have with my kids as I’m experiencing just how fast they go from toddler to teenager. It can feel like less than a blink of my eye or the beat of my heart.

And without a doubt, sometimes as parents, we get focused on the wrong things. We let the frustrations overshadow the joys, and we take these dwindling days with our children for granted.

But the constant reminders of how quickly the sand is running out of their childhood hourglass creates an urgency that often only further sabotages our ability to savor the sweetness of motherhood.

Believe me, as the end of each school year comes faster than the one before, I am painfully aware that my children are racing towards adulthood at a speed that takes my breath away.

I desperately want to answer the repeated calls for me to do everything in my power to slow it down. But fighting time is a battle I will never win.

I refuse to live in a perpetual state of fear and panic

I don’t want to waste so much energy pushing back against the passing of days, months, and years that I leave myself too exhausted for the here and now.

I don’t want to resent the natural cycle of my children’s lives.

And most importantly, I don’t want to hold them back.

The futures they have in front of them are so full of potential. I can see it already.

My hope is when the last summer of their childhood comes to an end, they will go rushing out into the world, hearts full with anticipation. There should be no hesitation about leaving me behind. I don’t want them to look back.

Yes, the tears will flow, and my heart will ache as I watch them go.

But I also know at that moment that I won’t cease to be their mother.

Our bond is forever

They will come back, and eventually, they will bring more people for me to fold into my arms and love; husbands, wives, and grandchildren. Whoever they love, I will try and love too.

So, for now, I am not going to worry about how many summers I have left.

I’m simply going to enjoy each one as it comes.

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Inspiring Audios – What Teens Need To Be Listening To In Today’s World

June 15, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Inside: the best podcasts, documentaries and audio books for teenagers

There are so many things to listen to out there, and its hard sometimes for both you and your teenager to figure out what some good options are. Well fear not because the popular posts provided below have a variety of new listening choices for your teen from podcasts, to ted talks and even great audio books that will both entertain and motivate middle school and high school teens. Your teen will love the stories, and you’ll that they’re learning something, a win for both of you.

Podcasts provide a great way to lighten any boring task for your teen, TED talks will have them sitting on the edge of their seat, and documentaries are a great way to bond with your teenager as a family. The best part about all of these options though, is that they’ll learn lots in the process.

These Inspiring audios will help middle school and high school students engage with technology in a healthy and beneficial way, entertaining them and informing them about important topics that they may not always want to hear about from mom and dad.

Inspiring Audios – What Teens Need To Be Listening To In Today’s World

10 Of The Best Must Listen To Podcasts For Teens

Podcasts are a great way for your teens to turn any boring task into an exciting listening event. Great to listen to in the car, while doing chores, or even while exercising, these podcasts are sure to have your teen hanging on the edge of their seat, while also teaching them valuable information to use in the future. In this post you’ll find podcasts of all different genres, so there’s sure to be something here that your teen will love.

Hilariously Funny Podcasts for Teens That Will Have Them Laughing Out Loud

Everyone knows even the most sulky of teenagers love a good laugh, and so do the rest of us! That’s why these podcasts can be great to listen to together with your teen. Sure to have you both rolling on the floor in no time, listening to these podcasts can bring much needed silliness to your relationship with your teen and let you both relax and connect through the joys of comedy. Not to mention you’re both sure to learn something along the way, as not only are these podcasts funny, but also stealthily educational. Who knew learning could be so hilarious?

The BEST Motivational Ted Talks for Teens and Tweens

We can all agree on one thing. The teenage years are hard. Really hard. From peer pressure, to trying to fit in, to uncertain friendships it always seems like there is something going on that can be destructive to confidence. And even though they might seem like they’re overly confident and certain of all the answers, they need a bit of guidance and motivation as well. 

TED talks are great way to help your teen without having them feel like you’re breathing down their necks. Every teen needs to find their self confidence, and while that has to mostly be of their own discovery, these TED talks can help set them down the right path.

The Best Inspirational Ted Talks for Teens

We all have our bad days, and teenagers are no exception. It can sometimes feel like they’re in some sort of teenage funk when the reality is the world is just feeling a little extra heavy that day. No need to panic though, because often the only thing they need is a little inspiration to remind them life isn’t all that bad. These TED talks are great for those rainy days when your teen isn’t feeling completely like themselves and they need a little extra motivation.

The Best Ted Talks for Teens and Tweens To Help Them Learn To Adult

Its true, most teenagers think that they know almost everything and they’re ready to conquer the world, thats just the way it is. However, we parents know that there are quite a few things that they don’t know and it can be difficult sometimes to teach them these things. Let’s face it, teenagers are stubborn. They don’t want mom and dad telling them how to live their life, and that’s where these TED talks can help. They’ll help give your teen some of the tools they’ll need without having them feel like their parents are telling them what to do.

Twenty of the Best Audio Books For Teens (That Parents Will Enjoy Too!)

We all know reading is important, but with busy schedules and varied interests, it’s tough to get your teen to sit down with a good book–and even harder to find one they’ll actually enjoy. Whether your teen is rekindling a love for reading or is looking to find that love, audiobooks are a great way to breach the barrier into the world of literature. These fantastic audiobooks will make sure your teenager won’t want to stop listening, and many of them can help introduce important social topics that are important for them to understand. Not to mention, these books are all great for you to listen to together with your teen, as you’re sure to love them too.

Okay, so we’re also throwing in this bonus post. While it isn’t a Podcast, Ted Talk or Audio Book these documentaries are also a great way to expand your teen or tweens outlook on the world and slip something both educational, but entertaining in under the radar. Plus, they make for a great way to do something together as a family.

The Best Documentaries To Watch With Your Teens and Tweens

There’s a lot going on in our world right now, and its important to make sure that your teen is staying caught up to the world they’re soon to venture out into. These documentaries are a great way to keep your teen both informed and entertained, and they can even be a great bonding experience for the whole family! Not to mention that every one of these documentaries will leave your teen feeling inspired to live their life to the fullest. From the story of a lonely Orca in a theme park, to a small-town Indian girl who broke stereotypes to become a champion archer, there’s a documentary for all teenage preferences.

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16 Great Book Series for Teens and Tweens They Won’t Put Down

June 13, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

Inside: Here are 12 of the best teen-approved book series that they won’t want to put down.

Whether you have a tween or teen that loves to read or you’re trying to inspire their inner bookworm, there are so many great options out there when it comes to book series for teens and tweens.

Yes, it’s true, most teens may want to spend more time on their phones or playing video games, and it can get harder and harder to convince them to pick up a book.

We get it. We’re parenting through these ages as well. Teens are way more likely to grab an electronic device instead of a book, but you can change that by suggesting a great book series that will leave them wanting more!

These series are all captivating, addictive reads that will get your teen excited about reading again! We’ve hit several young adult (YA) genres from Dystopia to Fantasy and Sci-fi , so there is something for all different interests!

Psst – if your teen or tween is resistant to old fashion books, devices can actually be used for more than watching Tik Tok videos. Try getting them a kindle paperwhite (no games or other distractions) or download the kindle app on their phone and get a kindle unlimited subscription. Or try an audible subscription and they can listen to books from their phone or other device. You could even listen to books together if you’re still driving your kids to school and other activities or during family trips.

Best book series to recommend to your teens

The Hunger Games Trilogy by Suzanne Collins

The Hunger Games is one of the most popular ya books of all time. Collins creates a future post-apocalyptic vision of our own world. The Capitol is the harsh Government of the twelve districts of Panem, which was once North America. As punishment for a revolution in the past, the Hunger Games are created to discourage future rebellions. One boy and one girl (aged twelve to eighteen) are chosen from each district to fight to the death on live television until only one child remains.

The main characters are the “tributes” from district 12, Katniss Everdeen and Peeta Mellark, who form a friendship and maybe more as they work together to thwart The Capitol along with a growing resistance movement across a multi-book saga that will capture the attention, heart, and soul of any reader.

This trilogy is recommended for ages 11+. (As a note, though, there is considerable violence in these books, which would not be ideal for younger readers who are more sensitive to such topics). Bonus is watching the movie trilogy after you finish the book series.

The Mortal Instruments series by Cassandra Clare

With more than 24 million copies sold, this series is one your teen won’t be able to put down. The Mortal Instruments are the three divine items given by the Angel Raziel to Jonathan Shadowhunter, the first of the Nephilim . Raziel gave them to the Nephilim not only for individual use but also in case of dire emergency, when he would heed their call only once; when used all together, the Instruments would summon the Angel.

The series follows Clarissa Fray, who interacts with a group of Nephilim known as Shadowhunters while also discovering her own heritage and her family history. The Shadowhunters protect the world of mundane/human people, who are also called mundanes or “mundies”, from dark forces beyond their world.

This book series falls in the young adult genre and is recommended for ages 13+.

The Skinjacker Series by Neal Shusterman

Not every child who dies goes on to the afterlife. Some are caught halfway between life and death, in a sort of limbo known as Everlost: a shadow of the living world, filled with all the things and places that no longer exist. It’s a magical, yet dangerous place where bands of lost kids run wild and anyone who stands in the same place too long sinks to the center of the Earth.

Allie and Nick don’t survive the car crash, and end up in Everlost, where coins are more valuable than anyone knows, fortune cookies tell the truth, monsters are real, and the queen of lost souls lives in a once-beloved tower. Nick and Allie have to learn to survive in a world with different rules, and figure out who they can trust—and who they must oppose at all costs. At stake is nothing less than the fate of Everlost and the living world they have left behind.

In this gripping trilogy with so many plot twists, New York Times best-selling author Shusterman explores questions of life, death, and what just might lie in between. Recommended for ages 12+.

The Selection by Kiera Cass

Your tween or teen girl will find herself transported into a world of breathless fairy-tale romance, glittering gowns, and fierce intrigue. For thirty-five girls, the Selection is the chance to escape a rigid caste system, live in a palace, and compete for the heart of gorgeous Prince Maxon.

Well, make that thirty-four girls. For America Singer, being selected is the worst fate she can imagine. It means turning her back on her secret love, leaving her family, and competing for a crown she doesn’t want.

Then America meets Prince Maxon, and she suddenly isn’t sure where her loyalties lie or anyone else’s for that matter. This five-book series is recommended for ages 13+.

The Lunar Chronicles by Melissa Meyer

This was one of my daughter’s favorite book series in eighth grade. The Lunar Chronicles are futuristic retellings of classic fairy tales. In the first book, Cinder, a teenage cyborg (half-human, half-machine) must deal with a wicked stepmother, start a rebellion against the evil Queen Levana, and decide how she feels about a handsome prince. Follow Marissa Meyer’s The Lunar Chronicles from the beginning with Cinder, Scarlet, Cress, Fairest: Levana’s Story, Stars Above (a collection of stories set in the Lunar Chronicles universe), and the epic conclusion, Winter.

The Maze Runner by James Dashner

The Maze Runner five-book series is an incredible read for teens. The books follow along a group of teens stranded in a deadly world where they must attempt to uncover the mystery of the maze they’re trapped inside, while also working to find any clues about their own forgotten pasts. Perfect for ages 13+.

Divergent by Veronica Roth

In Divergent, society has been divided into five factions—Candor (the honest), Abnegation (the selfless), Dauntless (the brave), Amity (the peaceful), and Erudite (the intelligent). Beatrice (Tris) must choose between staying with her Abnegation family and transferring factions. Her choice sets the stage for this book series and the secrets that unfold about who or what is really behind this divided order and the role Tris has in uncovering those secrets as well as some of her own. Recommended for ages 14+.

The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien

Hobbits, wizards, and magic are what fill the pages of this trilogy of books. Have your teen take a journey into a land that only exists in dreams – or nightmares. Bonus if you read these together and you remind your teen about how you read these in high school. Recommended reading for ages 12+.

Twilight by Stephenie Meyer

Is there anything better than a book series that combines vampires, wolves, and love with a forbidden romance? This best-selling book is a hit for its complex storyline and engrossing character relationships! The reading age for this series is 12+.

A Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket

With 13 books in this series, it’s one that will capture your teen’s attention for quite some time! They’ll learn some truly unique stories and read about some amazing adventures. They just may find that they’re not too old to let their imagination run wild. Great reading for ages 9+.

Theodore Boone Set by John Grisham

Written by John Grisham, this riveting book set will introduce your teen to a legal thrill that is relative to the age in their life. These book sets are great for mystery and suspense and full of fun legal jargon for them to learn and research as well. Ages 9+ can enjoy reading these books but our young teens enjoyed them too.

Pretty Little Liars by Sara Shepard

While many would say that this is a great book series for teenage girls, it’s really one that teen boys and girls can read. This coming-of-age story is especially suited for teens in high school and above as it does have topics that are more grown up in it. Recommended for 14+.

Ranger’s Apprentice by John Flanagan

Ranger’s Apprentice is a 12-book series filled with Vikings, Knights, Diplomats, terrifying beasts and much more, but the most intriguing individuals in the world of Araluen are the Kings Rangers. These Elite scouts and archers are few in number but extraordinary in reputation and mystique, even believed by some to possess magical abilities. The story follows Will, an orphan who finds himself apprenticed to Halt, who is not only a national hero, but also the greatest Ranger Araluen has ever seen.

The Ranger’s apprentice series, while an adventure series, has many touching moments of bonding and loyalty as well as frequent comedic relief which will have your teen intermittently laughing and crying. These moments will connect them with the exemplary characters in the novel, while putting them in touch with their own emotions, and teaching them a few lessons about friendship, loyalty, and personal growth along the way.

The online recommendation is 10+ for this book series.

The Shadow and Bone Trilogy by Leigh Bardugo

Leigh Bardugo’s Shadow and Bone is currently one of the most prominent fantasy novels for young adults, with Bardugo bringing her own dark twist to the genre. With a diverse ensemble of characters, the story works to reveal the dark underbelly of a world “blessed” with powerful gifts. By deep diving into deception and scandal, Bardugo highlights the importance of connection and morality. For fans of the Hunger Games and Harry Potter, Shadow and Bone is an essential YA read for ages 13+.

To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before series by Jenny Han

What if all the crushes you ever had found out how you felt about them…all at once?

Lara Jean Song keeps her love letters in a hatbox her mother gave her. They aren’t love letters that anyone else wrote for her; these are ones she’s written. One for every boy she’s ever loved—five in all. When she writes, she pours out her heart and soul and says all the things she would never say in real life, because her letters are for her eyes only. Until the day her secret letters are mailed, and suddenly, Lara Jean’s love life goes from imaginary to out of control.

This enchanting collection includes paperback editions of To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before; P.S. I Still Love You; and Always and Forever, Lara Jean.

Harry Potter by J.K. Rowling

The Harry Potter books are some of those classic books that every teenager should read. This is also a super fun series that families can read together. With many books in the Harry Potter series, teens will enjoy immersing themselves in the pages and being a part of the magical world. Great for ages 9+.

While all of the book recommendations listed above are great for teens, don’t forget that means that they’re perfect for adult readers, too. This could be a really great chance to bond with your teen by reading and enjoying some of the same books as them.

Use this as a way to show interest in something that they’re interested in and bond over their love of reading. Books have a way of bringing the imagination and family together.

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Six Strong Reasons to Encourage Trade School for Your Teen

June 13, 2022 by Angela Anagnost-Repke Leave a Comment

Inside: Traditional college is not for everyone. Here are six compelling reasons to consider trade school for teens.

When seniors graduate from high school, it feels like everyone’s first question is, “What college are you going to?”

But college isn’t for everyone, and it’s time our society started elevating the idea of trade schools. While aiming for that four-year degree has grown to be the norm, earning a bachelor’s does not always guarantee success.

In the same breath, one can be successful if they don’t earn that degree.

There was a time when vocational schools were reserved for people who couldn’t cut it in “real” school, but that stigma no longer makes sense. The rising cost of college, a skilled labor shortage, and the desire to pursue careers that give us flexibility and purpose, trade schools are a viable and responsible option for many students.

Trade schools for teens are not an easy way out

When I was a composition instructor at a local community college in Michigan, I had several trade students sitting at the desks in front of me. Some of these students were in the HVAC (Heating, Ventilation, and Air Conditioning) or carpentry programs, and some were in automotive. I also had students attending cosmetology or culinary arts centers but were in my class because they also wanted to earn an associate’s degree in business so that someday they could own their own.

These students were not inferior compared to the more traditional students in my classroom. Quite the contrary. They were focused on their career goals and almost always came to class ready to crush their dreams.

It’s time to stop pushing all students to go to college

The pressure on high schoolers is far too great. Not all students are the same, and it’s time we stopped treating them like they are.

What’s more important is that we encourage our teens to find their way by allowing them to follow their own passions and dreams. If your child finds the right trade school, they could be provided with a journey that focuses directly on the training and skills they’ll need to be successful–and more importantly–happy–in a specific job.

Here are six compelling reasons you and your teenager should consider a trade school.

High Demand

Trade jobs are in high demand right now. According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, nearly 8 million skilled-labor jobs were lost from the labor force during the pandemic. About half have been filled, but about 4 million vacancies remain in industries responsible for most transportation, construction, and mechanical needs nationwide. So, if your child likes to work with their hands or in the outdoors, let them run with it. When we had a flood in our basement last year, we had to wait for what seemed like forever just to find an electrician and plumber to come do our repairs (which weren’t cheap, by the way). And according to Live Career, the growth and demand in trade careers is only going to continue to rise.

Cost of College

The cost of colleges in the US continues to soar, and it’s no secret that college graduates are leaving schools with piling debt. In fact, according to Education Data Initiative, the average student loan debt per college student nationally is $36,406. So, parents and teens alike should take the time to analyze the cost of four-year universities compared to trade schools—especially if they know what they want to do for their careers.

According to the Center for Employment Training, the difference is $33,000 for those who graduate from a trade school compared to the average of $132,000 for those who finish with a bachelor’s degree. So, the pricey cost of college alone is one reason to consider looking at an alternative post-high school.

Focused Education

A well-rounded education is great for many students, but for some, getting through British Literature or Geology is a struggle. Trade schools for teens can provide a more direct path to a career by cutting out some of the extraneous classes required by other four-year institutions. If you have a student that knows what they are interested in doing for a job, a vocational school can be great as you know that every class is contributing to your future career.

Make Good Money, And Sooner

According to Live Career, after students complete a specific career training program, like HVAC, they can start earning at least $40,000 annually. Other jobs, such as a dental hygenist, electrician, or IT technician, can make even more. Therefore, not only are these students earning a solid income, but they’re doing it sooner than their counterparts at a big university.

These careers are also often recession-proof, so it could be a viable opportunity during tough economic times.

Follow Their Passion

Some kids just know what their passion is, and while traditional thinking has us believing that a four-year degree is more stable and attractive, for many jobs this isn’t the case. If your teen has a passion for something such as food, cosmetology, graphic design, or craftsmanship, a four-year degree may not be the way to go.

Instead, consider trade schools that combine learning their craft and the business and soft skills to be successful in their market. Additionally, doing what you love often leads to being more successful in all aspects of life (see next point.)

Mental Health & Happiness

It’s no secret that the rigor and high pressure of college can feel stressful to some students, and the college admissions process is not an enjoyable experience for anyone. Pursuing a vocational career can give many young people the flexibility and work-life balance we crave, in addition to steady employment.

Additionally, trade schools for teens who struggled in high school can give them a sense of purpose that they could not find previously. For a kid struggling to find their place in the world, a vocation can give them the direction they crave.

We need to change the dialogue about trade schools for teens

There is still some negative stigma and misconceptions about trade and technical skills despite the positive job market statistics for these sorts of careers. The U.S. specifically has pushed a college-for-all mentality that makes many parents unsure of this different path for their kids, but the truth is, a vocational job could be perfectly suited for your child.

There is no one path to success. Instead, we should encourage our teens to pursue careers that will both make them productive, self-sufficient members of society and content with their choices.

The students in my composition classes who were in various trade programs knew what they wanted. They weren’t sitting there with an empty bubble hanging over their heads. They were mature enough to trust themselves and to understand that the traditional route just wasn’t for them.

For some, a four-year college makes perfect sense, but if you have a teen who wants something different, it might be the time to start letting them go with their gut.

It’s okay if they choose something their friends aren’t. In fact, it might just turn out to be the best decision they’ve ever made.

Raising teens and tweens is hard, but you don’t have to do it alone. Here are some other posts parents found helpful.

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We Need to Change the Way We Talk about What Makes a “Good” College Now

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Teen Boy Dorm Rooms Essentials – Why You Don’t Need So Much Crap

June 8, 2022 by parentingteensandtweens Leave a Comment

I am the mom of a brand new high school graduate. I’ve spent the last year or more in numerous facebook groups all about college applications, admissions, college life and several specific to perspective parents for particular schools that my son actually applied to. This whole adventure has been A LOT! Yes, all capitals and I would really put about one hundred more explanation points if it wasn’t so obnoxious.

Since I’m in all these parents groups, I’ve been amused, surprised and kinda grossed out by what I’ve learned regarding boys and dorm rooms. Many parents, in attempt to keep us newbie parents of incoming freshman from making some of their mistakes, have been sharing all sorts of wisdom (and some pretty gross pictures) as they have arrived on campus to move their boys out their dorms for the summer.

The biggest take away by far was DON’T SEND THEM WITH SO MUCH CRAP!!!. They don’t need it and they don’t want it. Plus, what little stuff the actually use will most likely be beyond salvageable at the end of the year and even more will end up in a giant trash heap at the curb of the dorm waiting to fill local landfills.

Many moms showed pictures of desks and floors covered inches deep in dirty clothes, school papers and textbooks, weeks old take out containers, and even bedding that long ago stopped being used on the actual beds. Most were sure that their boys had never changed their sheets, let alone washed them the entire year. Same was true for most of their clothes. You could seriously smell the stench through the computer screen for some of these rooms. Cleaning products set unused in buckets in their closets – where not a single stitch of clothing or pair of shoes could be seen (as they were buried somewhere in the trash heaps on the dorm room floor).

I’m sorry if this seems somewhat gender discriminatory and I have no doubt that there were a few girls dorm rooms who weren’t much better and certainly some boys rooms that were probably pristine when their parents arrived. But overall, based on what I was seeing in these parenting groups, through no actual scientifically based data collection, my conclusion is that college boys and college girls are just two different dorm room dwellers.

So, if you have a teen boy heading to college next year, let’s take the collective wisdom of what these experienced moms had to say. It seems clear that there are some definite “must haves” for boys, but the list is short and pretty practical.

A Quick Tip: You might want to consider getting your college student an Amazon Prime College Account. This entitles the member to many discounts specific to college students that aren’t available through a regular prime account. You can sign up here Amazon Prime College Account to help save on the essentials listed below and then your student can use it during all four years of college to help quickly order and save money on all sorts of other items they are likely to need.

Dorm Room Bedding

Sleepyhead Gel Mattress Topper Twin XL - 2Sleepyhead Gel Mattress Topper Twin XL – 2Sleepyhead Gel Mattress Topper Twin XL - 2Bedsure Twin XL Mattress Pad Deep Pocket Pillow Top Mattress Topper Bedding Quilted Fitted Mattress Cover Extra Long Mattress Protector Stretches up to 18 Inches Deep (39x80 Inches, White)Bedsure Twin XL Mattress Pad Deep Pocket Pillow Top Mattress Topper Bedding Quilted Fitted Mattress Cover Extra Long Mattress Protector Stretches up to 18 Inches Deep (39×80 Inches, White)Bedsure Twin XL Mattress Pad Deep Pocket Pillow Top Mattress Topper Bedding Quilted Fitted Mattress Cover Extra Long Mattress Protector Stretches up to 18 Inches Deep (39x80 Inches, White)Amazon Basics Lightweight Super Soft Easy Care Microfiber Bed Sheet Set with 14Amazon Basics Lightweight Super Soft Easy Care Microfiber Bed Sheet Set with 14Amazon Basics Lightweight Super Soft Easy Care Microfiber Bed Sheet Set with 14Microplush Fleece Blanket - Twin/Twin Extra Long Blanket - Grey - Lightweight Soft Blanket for Bed, Sofa, Couch, Camping, and Travel - Ultra Soft Warm Blanket (Twin/Twin XL, Grey)Microplush Fleece Blanket – Twin/Twin Extra Long Blanket – Grey – Lightweight Soft Blanket for Bed, Sofa, Couch, Camping, and Travel – Ultra Soft Warm Blanket (Twin/Twin XL, Grey)Microplush Fleece Blanket - Twin/Twin Extra Long Blanket - Grey - Lightweight Soft Blanket for Bed, Sofa, Couch, Camping, and Travel - Ultra Soft Warm Blanket (Twin/Twin XL, Grey)KAWAHOME Sherpa Fleece Blanket Twin Size Super Soft Extra Warmest and Heavy Thick Winter 500GSM Bed Blankets for Couch Sofa Bed, 66KAWAHOME Sherpa Fleece Blanket Twin Size Super Soft Extra Warmest and Heavy Thick Winter 500GSM Bed Blankets for Couch Sofa Bed, 66KAWAHOME Sherpa Fleece Blanket Twin Size Super Soft Extra Warmest and Heavy Thick Winter 500GSM Bed Blankets for Couch Sofa Bed, 66OCM College Dorm Room Essentials 16-Piece Starter Pak | Twin XL Bedding, Mattress Pad, Comforter, Sheets, Towels and Blanket | Keaton | Graphic Blue Plaid & SolidsOCM College Dorm Room Essentials 16-Piece Starter Pak | Twin XL Bedding, Mattress Pad, Comforter, Sheets, Towels and Blanket | Keaton | Graphic Blue Plaid & SolidsOCM College Dorm Room Essentials 16-Piece Starter Pak | Twin XL Bedding, Mattress Pad, Comforter, Sheets, Towels and Blanket | Keaton | Graphic Blue Plaid & Solids

 

Quick Tip: Most college dorm room beds are not a standard size, but instead a twin XL. That is the assumption made for all the suggested items below. But be sure to check the residence life page of your college student’s particular school to confirm.

A Mattress Pad – Most dorm room mattresses are not the best quality and so almost all schools suggest that students bring a mattress pad. The sleep foundation rates the Sleepyhead Gel Mattress Topper Twin XL as the best college dorm mattress cover.

A Mattress Cover – A mattress cover is also suggested, because as already mentioned, college kids can be slops and many of them will eat and drink while sitting on their beds. The cover will protect the more expensive mattress pad and can also be helpful with dust and other allergens. The Bedsure Twin XL Mattress cover is priced right and is the suggested match to the Sleepyhead Gel Mattress topper.

Multiple Sets of Inexpensive Sheets – One of the highest rated XL twin sheet sets is from Amazon Basics they are perfect for dorm rooms and you can’t beat the price. Again, it is suggested that you buy multiple sets. Be prepared for the fact that they may never get washed and you may just be tossing them at the end of the school year. So, if you haven’t spent a fortune at least it might not be such a big deal. If you do have a college kid that is more apt to use a washing machine and might want a slightly more high end set, you might try these sheets from Mellani that are also highly rated and recommended.

A Blanket (preferably in a dark color) – Depending on what climate your kid is heading to for college, it may impact the weight of blanked you want to purchase. However, also keep in mind that some dorm rooms (especially on higher floors) tend to be like ovens year round no matter what the temp is outside and then even in really warm climates, some dorms are kept at frigid temps to discourage mold growth. So, an idea might be to get a few lighter weight ones that can be layered. This Twin XL Microfleece Plush lightweight blanket that comes in many colors is a definite winner and checks all the boxes. If you really think you’ll want something heavier, then these Supersoft Sherpa blankets are the ticket.

All In One No Hassle Dorm Bedding Set – If you seriously just can’t cope with the choices and want to make your life as easy as possible, there are quite a few full bedding sets out there. Some can get pretty cheap in terms of quality and might not survive even a full year of college guy dorm room shennanigans, so be careful. This college dorm room bedding set has tons of positive reviews and comes with the added bonus of towel sets as well.

Dorm Room Appliances

COSTWAY Compact Refrigerator, 3.2 cu ft. Unit 2-Door Mini Freezer Cooler Fridge with Reversible Door, Removable Glass Shelves, Mechanical Control, Recessed Handle for Dorm, Office, Apartment (Grey)COSTWAY Compact Refrigerator, 3.2 cu ft. Unit 2-Door Mini Freezer Cooler Fridge with Reversible Door, Removable Glass Shelves, Mechanical Control, Recessed Handle for Dorm, Office, Apartment (Grey)COSTWAY Compact Refrigerator, 3.2 cu ft. Unit 2-Door Mini Freezer Cooler Fridge with Reversible Door, Removable Glass Shelves, Mechanical Control, Recessed Handle for Dorm, Office, Apartment (Grey)Danby Designer 1.7 cu. ft. Compact Refrigerator (DAR017A2BDD), BlackDanby Designer 1.7 cu. ft. Compact Refrigerator (DAR017A2BDD), BlackDanby Designer 1.7 cu. ft. Compact Refrigerator (DAR017A2BDD), BlackEmeril Lagasse Power Air Fryer 360 Better Than Convection Ovens Hot Air Fryer Oven, Toaster Oven, Bake, Broil, Slow Cook and More Food Dehydrator, Rotisserie Spit, Pizza Function Cookbook Included (Stainless Steel)Emeril Lagasse Power Air Fryer 360 Better Than Convection Ovens Hot Air Fryer Oven, Toaster Oven, Bake, Broil, Slow Cook and More Food Dehydrator, Rotisserie Spit, Pizza Function Cookbook Included (Stainless Steel)Emeril Lagasse Power Air Fryer 360 Better Than Convection Ovens Hot Air Fryer Oven, Toaster Oven, Bake, Broil, Slow Cook and More Food Dehydrator, Rotisserie Spit, Pizza Function Cookbook Included (Stainless Steel)Toshiba EM131A5C-SS Microwave Oven with Smart Sensor, Easy Clean Interior, ECO Mode and Sound On/Off, 1.2 Cu Ft, Stainless SteelToshiba EM131A5C-SS Microwave Oven with Smart Sensor, Easy Clean Interior, ECO Mode and Sound On/Off, 1.2 Cu Ft, Stainless SteelToshiba EM131A5C-SS Microwave Oven with Smart Sensor, Easy Clean Interior, ECO Mode and Sound On/Off, 1.2 Cu Ft, Stainless SteelWoozoo Globe Multi-Directional 5-Speed Timer Oscillating Fan w/RemoteWoozoo Globe Multi-Directional 5-Speed Timer Oscillating Fan w/RemoteWoozoo Globe Multi-Directional 5-Speed Timer Oscillating Fan w/RemoteIRIS USA WOOZOO Oscillating Fan, Vortex Fan, Remote Equipped 4-in-1 Fan w/ Timer/ Multi Oscillation/ Air Circulator/ 5 Speed Settings, 82ft Max Air Distance, Medium, Matte BlackIRIS USA WOOZOO Oscillating Fan, Vortex Fan, Remote Equipped 4-in-1 Fan w/ Timer/ Multi Oscillation/ Air Circulator/ 5 Speed Settings, 82ft Max Air Distance, Medium, Matte BlackIRIS USA WOOZOO Oscillating Fan, Vortex Fan, Remote Equipped 4-in-1 Fan w/ Timer/ Multi Oscillation/ Air Circulator/ 5 Speed Settings, 82ft Max Air Distance, Medium, Matte BlackHoneywell HT-900 TurboForce Air Circulator Fan Black, SmallHoneywell HT-900 TurboForce Air Circulator Fan Black, SmallHoneywell HT-900 TurboForce Air Circulator Fan Black, SmallLEVOIT Air Purifier for Home Allergies Pets Hair in Bedroom, H13 True HEPA Filter, 24db Filtration System Cleaner Odor Eliminators, Ozone Free, Remove 99.97% Dust Smoke Mold Pollen, Core 300, WhiteLEVOIT Air Purifier for Home Allergies Pets Hair in Bedroom, H13 True HEPA Filter, 24db Filtration System Cleaner Odor Eliminators, Ozone Free, Remove 99.97% Dust Smoke Mold Pollen, Core 300, WhiteLEVOIT Air Purifier for Home Allergies Pets Hair in Bedroom, H13 True HEPA Filter, 24db Filtration System Cleaner Odor Eliminators, Ozone Free, Remove 99.97% Dust Smoke Mold Pollen, Core 300, WhiteDyson Pure Cool Link TP02 Wi-Fi Enabled Air Purifier, White/SilverDyson Pure Cool Link TP02 Wi-Fi Enabled Air Purifier, White/SilverDyson Pure Cool Link TP02 Wi-Fi Enabled Air Purifier, White/SilverLasko 42Lasko 42Lasko 42

 

Small Refrigerator – College kids are hungry pretty much 24/7 and cafeteria food isn’t known for being gourmet. Throw in the need for snacks to fuel late night study sessions and having a small fridge is pretty much a necessity. Be sure you understand the square footage of the dorm room and space available before purchasing a mini-fridge. This well rated Compact Dorm Fridge is a pretty safe bet for most dorms. However, if you’re extra tight on space, you might also want to consider this Ultra Compact Dorm Room Fridge.

Air Fryer – It just so happens that I work with college kids and so I asked some of them the other day about the one thing they could not live without in their dorm rooms. And to my surprise, boys and girls alike were 100% hands down most enthusiastic about air fryers. Apparently the air fryer is to Gen Z what the mircrowave to Millenials. This Emeril Lagasse Power Air Fryer was the one they all suggested.

Microwave – Okay, so if you’re skeptical of the whole air fryer situation and think a microwave is still the better bet. This small countertop Toshiba Microwave is a best seller and perfectly sized for a dorm room.

A Fan – Dorms are known for bad air circulation and many colleges in cooler climates don’t have A/C. Additionally, it appears universal that dorm rooms on higher floors tend to be warm year round. This is why a fan has become a must have for most college dorm room. By far the hands down most suggested is the Woozoo 5 Speed Globe Fan. However, they are so popular, they are regularly out of stock and hard to find. So, a few back up options include this slightly more expensive Woozoo model or this much more economical Honeywell Turbo fan. If a tower fan is preferred as it can be a little better space wise and to cool the whole room consider the Lasko Oscillating Tower Fan.

An Air Purifier – Due to the circulation issues mentioned above and the general construction of many dorms, mold can be a pretty significant issue. The schools won’t divulge this information, but join any parent group for any college and you’ll hear about it. (P.S. it’s not just the dorms, but many college apartment buildings too). Then there is also the fact that you’re putting a whole bunch of young people in small spaces who aren’t sleeping or eating all that well and therefore are perpetually sick, which means germs spread like wildfire in dorms. Staying healthy is a challenge, but an air filter can certainly help. This Levoit Hepa Air Purifie is fairly compact and effective making it a top choice for dorm rooms, but these pricier Dyson purifiers seemed to be the ones students and parents felt worked best.

General Dorm Room Essentials

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Desk Lamp – The lighting in most dorm rooms is pretty harsh and sometimes you’ve got one roomie pulling an all nighter while the others are trying to actually sleep. A good desk lamp like this multifunctional LED desk lamp with wireless charger and five lighting modes is a solid solution with the added bonus of working as another USB charging option.

Power Strip with USB ports – Computer, iphones, appliances, lamps.. getting the idea. These college kids are plugging a ton of stuff in and most dorm rooms don’t come equipped with nearly enough plugs. Inclusion of the USB ports is a must and how can you go wrong with this perfect five star rated power strip that is ideal for a college dorm room.

Handheld Vacuum- The likelihood of much cleaning going on is pretty slim, on the other hand the likelihood of spills is pretty high. It can also get pretty icky constantly stepping on food crumbs and dirt and debris that gets brought in on over the course of the year. An easy to use and effective handheld vacuum did seem to be something that got some use and could be worth sending. Plus, it doesn’t take up much room and can be thrown in the closet – since it should be used for something.

Small Trash Can With Lid – Many dorm rooms don’t provide trash cans or the ones they do are pretty puny and don’t have lids. Since small spaces are prone to stink up fast, a solid trash can with a lid isn’t a bad idea.

First Aid Kit – It may never get used, that would be the best thing to say about this item. But… just in case, this is one of those better safe than sorry ideas. An inexpensive way to purchase peace of mind. Also, don’t be surprised when they call asking what they should take for a cold, a sort throat, a stomach ache and so forth. While it might be nice to hear from them, its even better empowering them to figure a few basics of health care themselves, so tuck this handy guide in with their school books.

See WHAT NOT TO BUY at the end of this post for the last two items pictured above. 😉

Bathroom and Laundry Essentials

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Shower Caddy – A slightly more portable hanging shower caddy seems to be the preferred and more modern update to the older bucket style. Not having to set this version on the floor makes it particularly appealing. The key items to include: deodorant, shampoo/conditioner, shower soap, shaving necessities, lotion/sunscreen and maybe some body spray.

Towel Set – Don’t count on these surviving more than the first year, so this fairly good quality, but not so spendy set is your perfect option. You’ll definitely want at least two sets, maybe more. If you have a kid that isn’t likely to launder often or at all, dark colors for sure. If they will launder at least occasionally, go with white and have them use bleach!

Shower Shoes – Shower shoes are a must, but don’t count on your kiddos to wear them. You might consider showing them some google images of the potential consequences of not wearing them to create a little motivation. And then make if fun, because who doesn’t want to sport funky monkey shower shoes simply for the name alone?!

Laundry Baskets/Bags – Let’s talk about how laundry is going to go down. If they actually do their laundry, they will not fold it, so buy at least two of these brilliantly designed laundry basket and bag all in ones. One to hold the clean laundry and one for the dirty laundry. This will at least keep their room from being completely covered in random clothes, because why would they ever use the closet and dressers that are designed for such purposes?

Laundry Bag Part II – Okay, so hear this idea out. It might not also be a bad idea to get them a simple, easily portable laundry bag like this one with the handy compartment for detergent. It is highly likely that they will sort clothes in the following way; pretty clean, a bit funky but still wearable and whoa, that smells baaaaaad! The latter are the ones that might get washed and will need to be kept separate from all the other clothes, The bag will make it easy to transport to the laundry room and to remember the detergent. Well, one can hope.

What NOT To Buy

There is more that could be added to this list and you can figure out some of the items that might be a little more particular to your child. But the idea is to keep things as simple as possible. Start small and if they need more stuff, that’s why Amazon Prime was invented. Better to get items as they go then to end up with a bunch of stuff they never use. However, here are a few things better left never bought:

  • Throw Rugs (you don’t want to know how gross these can get by the end of one year of college)
  • A TV (that’s what their phones and your netflix password are for and it just takes up space)
  • A Gaming Console (Do you actually want them to go to class, like ever??)
  • Plates, silverware or any kind of any food consumption device that requires washing (they won’t ever get washed)
  • A Printer (there is rarely room for it, they will run out of paper, ink, etc – it’s a hassle and there are plenty on campus)
  • A ton of new clothes (see all the laundry comments above – keep it to the bare minimum, but extra undies maybe..)
  • Luggage – there is no where to store it. Go for these instead.
  • Tons of cleaning products – grab some Clorox wipes and call it good.
  • An iron (LOL!!!!) or other silly small appliances (toaster, keurig, panini press, waffle maker, you get the idea)
  • Fancy decor like throw pillows, candles or anything that will just be clutter (They don’t care if their room is “pretty”)

Parenting teens and college students is hard, but these popular posts other parents found helpful might just make it a little bit easier. 

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